self respect – Deb Hawken

Out of the Dark

When you’re struggling you feel the sensuous voice of the darkness trying to dim your light, often using the voices of those around you. This was my response. Be your own light Deb xx

Do you spend more time thinking about the future or the past? Why? Minds don’t stay in one place for long. I’m not a fan of looking back unless it’s to good memories. I do like to mull my way forward sometimes, but then that can be to miss the here and now, which isContinueContinue reading “Hard to Say”

Soul-centred Living: Truth

To live this way is very simple but it can sound and feel complex if you’ve never tried it. Here are a few simple tips: Always tell yourself the truth. You don’t have to tell anyone else, but you do need to be completely honest with yourself. You achieve this by: Live from the heart.ContinueContinue reading “Soul-centred Living: Truth”

Soul-centred Living: We do it your way

As I’ve already said, I mentor not teach. As we all have stuff of the Big Bang in our DNA it indicates that humans are the same age, soul-wise. As are all living things including of course, the cosmos and planets. As such it feels disrespectful to teach a fellow soul, and it’s also non-productiveContinueContinue reading “Soul-centred Living: We do it your way”

The ‘sigh’ in the Room?

When you suffer from mental health issues you’re often treated like a pair of curtains. People try to be sympathetic, lose patience, and suggest that you try harder or pull yourself together. They may not use those words but it’s implicit in the chivvying up process. You can’t whip yourself together with one smart pull,ContinueContinue reading “The ‘sigh’ in the Room?”

No idea

Just live! What will your life be like in three years? I don’t have a clue? Isn’t that wonderful?! I find that if you try to think ahead you will always see more of what you have now. Whereas if you go with the flow and keep your eyes wide open, you never know whatContinueContinue reading “No idea”

Only one

List three jobs you’d consider pursuing if money didn’t matter. My ‘job’. I’m a writer. I write to help others. That’s mostly free. I try to do it in a lighter way that doesn’t focus on problems, I offer solutions, and ideas for a different way of thinking and living. A way that has helpedContinueContinue reading “Only one”

Brand Identity?

What brands do you associate with? There are many ways to take this question, but I personally see association with brands to mean that you have favourites that represent your personality. I’m a Gemini! I’d love a Porsche and a Smart Car, yet it wouldn’t bother me if I never had them. With clothes I’veContinueContinue reading “Brand Identity?”

Just to help

What change, big or small, would you like your blog to make in the world? I used to suffer from terrible acute anxiety. I was born into a very messed up family, no abuse, but I’m still seeing the effects in my younger brother and until recently my cousin, to this day. I way toContinueContinue reading “Just to help”

The Observer

I watch her She sits in her space Pondering the right way to be As if there is only one right way For all time I feel for her I hear her When she asks for help With things she shouldn’t be allowing Tolerating Listening to Feeling I wish she could hear me I senseContinueContinue reading “The Observer”