Me & My Work

“You’ve had the hardest life emotionally of anyone I’ve ever met
and you didn’t deserve a moment of it.”

That statement came from a lady who knew me from the age of 9, and was close to my family for many years. She only felt able to tell me that after both my parents had passed. Was I glad to hear it? Did it help? In all honesty no. In some ways it was easier to think that there was something wrong with me, than to realise I’d had so many years of hurtful treatment that I didn’t deserve.

Fortunately I’d changed myself and my life by that time, so the emotional disruption was nowhere near as it could have been. I guess the first message is, don’t automatically think you’re to blame. Adults can be driven by the past in ways they never think to question.

Thank goodness I found a mentor who taught me to question. Now I help others to do the same.

From Acute Anxiety to Dancing Star

I changed my life by learning about different ways of thinking, which made me realise that the 20th Century patent for being a human was deeply flawed, and yet the information was out there if you knew where to look, or if you knew you needed to look. If you’ve arrived here I hope that means that you’re willing to do what it takes to be happy.

“One must have chaos in oneself in order to give birth to a Dancing Star”
Nietzsche

When I first encountered this saying I realised that I could take everything that had happened to me and use it to show me what needed to change, who and how I didn’t want to be. Your negativity can actually be your greatest teacher because:

It shows you exactly what’s wrong and how you need to change

Whilst I don’t believe one must have chaos in oneself, if you are a maelstrom of confusion you may just as well use it as fuel to give birth to your best self! No one wants to spend their entire life damaged by someone else’s damage, and no one needs to. You’re rather like a computer, you can change your programming any time you life.

How I Can Help

I run spiritual mentoring groups on a Monday evening and Wednesday morning, they’re fortnightly so I have room for two more groups in a month if you’re interested. I also do
1-2-1 mentoring, and often work on line as it saves all the travelling.

You can pick up this baby on Amazon, or contact me for a signed copy.

I wrote the book as a handbook, as it says, because I became fed up with people telling me who I was and how I needed to change. I didn’t want to do that to my readers.

Everyone must define themselves and work out who and how they want to be, to live their life, to react. No adult needs telling what to do and how to do it, what they need are ideas and suggestions, with a bit of information as to why those ideas rock. It is written to help you find you.

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