Asking for help

I meet many people who talk me that they don’t like to ask for help, they prefer to get on with ‘it’ on their own. Those people rarely change.

When I needed help I didn’t even think about not asking. I sought every piece of help and advice out there. especially from a friend and mentor who was also a hypnotherapist. But when I was at my lowest, in the changeover between escaping 17 years of mental abuse and falling head over heels in love 6 weeks later, only to discover that he was a workaholic, the wheels really came off my mind. I was desperate.

My toxic ex took my family, my friends, and then hubby went to work and came home very late at night. That was a lot of time to think. I had just asked for one year of peace to recover and I didn’t get one week.

When the doctor suggested a Community Psychiatric Nurse I did flinch (was I that bad?), then I said yes. Best decision I ever made. Much more useful than being asked how I felt, he told me what was wrong, and spent six weeks learning about my main issues and giving me tools to deal with them. I never looked back. Thanks Ben wherever you are.

I then studied all kinds of thinking, many ways of approaching life. I built my own recovery programme and rebuilt myself.

That’s what this book is intended to help with: building your own path to recovery that works for you, and helping you to undo the past and create a way of approaching life that is perfect for you. You have that right. To be yourself, your way.

Here’s the daft bit

The one thing I’ve never asked for help with is this book. I’ve paid for adverts, tried social media, talked to people, offered shops free copies to try and to pass on the profits to them. Anything I can think of. It hasn’t worked.

I wrote this book with my whole heart, it contains the knowledge I was taught and learned, modified to suit me, and used, that helped me to recover and take charge of my mind and life.

I never once thought about money when I was writing it, and the only reason I want it to be a best seller is so that people get help from someone who does care.

I truly do, it upsets me that I know that millions of people are struggling, feeling worthless, and this book contains real help.

One of my friends told me off when I said that maybe it wasn’t any good. He said mine was the only book he’s read three times and he always picks it up when he’s in trouble. He said it gets him through. Another old client now friend sleeps with it by her bed. She gave me a telling off too. I have a 5* review from America, sadly they didn’t write anything, but I’m still delighted.

This is my dream. Just to help. I made a commitment years ago when I was writing the book:

That I would be there when no one else was.

That’s why I wrote it, to be there.

Please

If you’ve read this far, if you could just do an Amazon search it would help bring it up the listings. It’s in world wide. If you could bear it in mind if anyone tells you they can’t cope. Mention it on social media. Anything. I’d be so grateful. If you bought it I’d call down a thousand blessings on your head. I do that every time it sells.

BUT

If you have a book or anything else creative to promote I will be happy to help. Message me with the details. I WILL reciprocate. It’s only right.

I’m sure we writers all know how this feels.

Thanks for reading…more than I can say.

Deb xx