Never

Are you holding a grudge? About?

Holding a grudge means giving other people power over you, and that’s something I will not do.

I won’t let unkind people live inside my head, turning me bitter, ruining my digestion with the extra bile, and generally allowing me to hold myself back.

I deal with things to my satisfaction, never allowing people to make me rude, unkind, or spiteful. I take time to work out my truth, then I say what I mean and mean what I say, and if necessary walk away. That’s important because otherwise I’d be angry with myself for decades if I let rip.

I also own the situation. If you throw blame out you get sh*t back. Arguments rarely solve anything. I use ‘I statements’.

• I find that this situation isn’t right for me
• We don’t seem to thrive in the same room and I find that too sad to continue
• I need different challenges (work)
• Throw in a compliment and run

Yep, leave them feeling self satisfied. That does you no harm and minimises grotty memories.

We all know that grot impacts far more than good. Don’t turn yourself into a nuclear fall out zone just to feel righteous, the other party will think you’re wrong anyway.

Let them be fuming but right whilst you’re getting on with your future.

It takes a great deal of strength to do this, and it may feel like giving up, but self preservation is king.

No grudges.

No blame.

No regrets.

Nothing to hang on to and drag you back into the past.

No never ending hamster wheel of what they said and you should have said. Minimal words (yes I am capable of that 🤣), swift exit. Freedom.

To excellent mental health and living in the now

Deb x