Escape Hatch

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The start of my escaping my anxiety came in a most unusual way. I’d been fighting it so hard but quite frankly fighting anxiety doesn’t work, all it does is lock you in a battle with yourself. One part of you feeling lousy, the other part not wanting to feel lousy, one feeling weak and vulnerable, and the other annoyed because they don’t want to be weak and vulnerable. A never-ending cycle of mutually agreed destruction.

I asked a friend for help and that friend turned out to be a spiritual thinker whose advice was perfect for my situation. It may be helpful with yours…

What if You Were 10,000 Years Old?

I’d never before considered myself to be a soul first, human second. I hadn’t given any thought to what animated me, or whether I was the result of an accidental collision between sperm and egg, or much more. The only thing I can tell you is that in all my life, and for no particular reason, I’d felt the power of a higher presence around me. In fact I took myself off to church alone when I was 7, and went every single Sunday barring holidays until I was 14. Why I walked away isn’t relevant, but it was right, and it changed nothing between me and God. I still call that energy God because it’s a 3 letter word that I can spell easily.

When I approached my friend for help he opened with “What if you were 10,000 years old and had many lifetimes? What if you’d brought the wisdom of those lifetimes with you and could access them in the here and now? What if you’d been your mother’s father and your father’s mother in a previous lifetime? Would you have to believe everything other people said about you, or could you go within, access your full potential, and decide for yourself?

I can’t even tell you why that made complete sense in my heart, but it did. I suddenly new without doubt that I wasn’t just a screwed up 26-year-old woman, there was something else. How does that idea feel to you if you haven’t already explored it? And if you have, is it an idea that you’re living and utilising, or is it just something you know? The difference between knowing intellectually and knowing in your heart is huge, and life-changing.

If You Are More Than You Know…then…?

So if that feels right to you and you could feel that wisdom inside, don’t you think you’d have met with and overcome many challenges in those lifetimes? I’ve had some past life regressions through hypnosis and believe me I’ve bossed a few serious challenges in my time?

I also teach psychic and mediumship development, as well as accessing your soul in the real world and living your full potential. I’ve met people who’ve struggled at first to free their minds and try the exercises, but I’ve never, and I mean never, seen anyone fail. Everyone has that lightbulb moment where the light comes on behind their eyes and their face de-ages by about 10 years. A moment when they realise that they know more than they know and are capable of things they didn’t even know existed.

If you can embrace this idea it gives you one key building block to saving your sanity: freedom from who you and others perceive you are. It’s like being in a dark room and someone opens the door, and gone is the grotty area you lived in, in it’s place is light, warmth, beauty, and a whole new world.

Hands on Heart

No matter how it sounds to you, the reader, this is very real for me. It’s also very practical. Living a life spiritually connected to your own soul makes everyday decisions easier and clearer. The more you explore and learn the easier it gets and you just appreciate everything more.

How do you make this connection though? You sit with your hands on your heart and feel.

Dismiss the Mind

It’s a fantastic object but in order for your mind to feel better, less cluttered, clearer, and more useful you really need to help it by:

  • Retraining it to retrain your cellular emotional programming
  • Finding it better things to think about
  • And giving it periods of rest and calm exactly as you would your body

Before you even begin to think about meditation if it isn’t your bag, learn to spend a few moments on waking and going to sleep with your hands on your heart and just feel. You’ll probably be surprised when you do make the connection that the feeling won’t be all the stress and grot you’re going through…it will be the purest joy.

The heart is the seat of the soul in energetic terms. We often say “I know in my heart…”, or “my heart tells me…”, if a child says “where are you?” a very common gesture is to put a hand on the heart and say “I’m right here”.

You are right there, your heart does know, and it does communicate with your brain and tell it things.

Give it a go, see how it feels for you, and let me know if you have any good results from it.

To your happiness

Deb xx


Published by debdancingstarhawken7

I'm a writer, public speaker, medium, and spiritual thinker. I suffered from acute anxiety from the age of 16 until I was well into my 50s, after fearlessly exploring many ideas, philosophies, and tools, I finally found methods that helped me return my mind to a better normal. One of the things I hated about anxiety was the way people treated me like a fool or a problem, I have two degrees and I'm a (much) retired black belt, my IQ is decent, but I constantly felt like a complete idiot, something that was exacerbated by never feeling like the real me. The girl who could laugh endlessly about the smallest things, and had a real excitement about what life had to offer her. I didn't need anyone else to tell me I wasn't 'right', I knew that better than anyone. My mission now is to support people suffering as I did with a message of support with what they're going through, tools and ideas that might help, and a strong message of hope for the future. At 63, which I am at the time of writing, many people I know are in a rut, yet having beaten anxiety I'm now doing more with my life than I ever did when I was struggling just to get up in the morning, let alone face the day. It's a wonderful feeling - so the main message is that it doesn't matter how long you've been struggling or what age you are, when you beat anxiety you will get an entirely new lease of life - and that's fantastic at any age. On a personal note I'm married to my soul mate, we have 5 cats, and I live in the middle of the UK. I follow a number of fantastic thinkers, as it's important to immerse yourself in healthy thinking as often as you can, I'm a Toastmaster and professional public speaker, and I keep life simple and encourage my clients to do the same, and my friends.

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