So, the move from believing that I was purely human and had only existed for 26 years in all, to realising that the idea that I was soul in a human body felt right, was the equivalent of the sun coming up on a brand new day. It illuminated everything and freed me from so much garbage I’d been carrying around with me.
3/10 Could Do Better
As you can imagine, being ‘the family nervous wreck’ for over 10 years, added to bullying at school, living with a husband I should never have married, in his grandparents house with all their furniture, in a job that I hated with colleagues that bullied me and subjected me to what we now call sexual harassment – friends of my father’s that is, I was not in a good place. I was literally a laughing stock. I felt like I lived in a world where my life mark was 3/10 could do better.
I obviously don’t know your story, but if you are struggling are the people around you helping or do they have both hands on your head shoving you down, so to speak? It’s important to think about this because people suffering from mental health problems require support, encouragement, and help, they are never (let me make that clearer NEVER) helped by being condemned, laughed at, and called names.
People thought I should be happy, and yet above there is a short excerpt from an A4 list two columns wide, of the things that were wrong in my life. That list alone should have made those around me realise that all would not be well. Instead they got a lot of laughs out of it and I don’t recall much help until I started seeing my mentor on a regular basis.
Something to Consider
When people aren’t confident in themselves having someone around them who is a mess often makes them feel better about who they are. “At least I’m better than the nervous wreck so I can’t be that bad”. When you recover it’s rather startling how screwed up these people are.
So In Order to Recover
You will need to examine the people around you and your relationships with them. I think you’ll agree that people, money, health, and work tend to be the regular everyday stresses in life. The effect of the people you have around you will be key to your recovery.
But I Have to Be Nice
Spiritually you don’t have to be nice, nor do you have to hurt others. When you connect with your soul and understand how magnificent it is – it’s the still untainted part of you – then you will start to value yourself a little more and that feeling will grow and develop over time.
The beauty of taking a spiritual approach though is that you can’t really call yourself a spiritual thinker healing in a spiritual way if you feel that you want to do harm. Of course you will feel angry with some people, current situations, and past events, and it’s important to acknowledge that as real and justified, but in embracing a spiritual path you will find yourself a good way out of the situations that leaves behind healing not carnage.
You’re struggling as it is, you don’t want to deal with arguments, fights, atmospheres, and lectures as to why you’re the problem not them, you don’t have the energy. So, give some thought to the ideas here, work out who isn’t supporting you in a helpful way, work out who’s making things worse, consider the situations you’re in and which don’t feel right to you by:
- Making a list
- Don’t be afraid of the size and content of the list it’s just information
- Number the list from most to least important
- Start with the least important thing and change it
- Then the next least important
- By the time you get to the top of the list you’ll be an established change maker
Tomorrow
No Spiritual Blame.
Until then,
To your happiness
Deb xx
Deb Hawken 