Living Under a Door

Not for me a mind like this beautiful and tranquil scene

In the middle ages one of the ways in which a woman was tested for being a witch was to take a wooden door, lay it on top of her and put rocks on it. If she lived she was a witch, if she died she was innocent. The ultimate lose/lose situation. I used to wake up in the morning feeling relaxed, and in an instant it would be as if that rock-laden door was descending on me, and the brief moment of peace was gone.

How to Face the Day

If you struggle like that I would suggest that you always start your day with a meditation that calms the brainwaves, something that takes you into alpha and theta brainwaves. These are the brainwaves of peace and tranquillity.

In alpha brainwaves you have space in your mind to think, theta brainwaves are the space where healing of the mind and body takes place.

Driving in Alpha Brainwaves

My best example is driving. When I started to learn to drive my father had just had a heart attack, I was 18 years old, stressed beyond belief, scared I would lose my dad. My ex said to me that I should learn to drive because I would have been able to drive my mother up to St Thomas’ Hospital in London.

Anyone who knows London knows that driving up there takes a huge amount of skill and attention. Some natural drivers, like my brother, are able to do it easily, I was not a natural driver. All my life I’ve known when I’m ready to do something, and I knew that I should wait a while before I tackled driving.

I failed my test twice, changed driving instructors and passed on the third attempt, however, I was never a happy driver. I had to psych myself up to drive anywhere, even somewhere I drove everyday. I never ever drove a car if I didn’t need to.

Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself

I have mentioned Joe Dispenza’s book and double CD meditation set before, and probably will again, and I will admit that I didn’t even stick to the programme with these. Blogging isn’t the only thing I can be random and undisciplined about. However…

About three weeks after I started doing the meditations I was out driving, and I realised that I’d just hopped in the car and was driving where I needed to go. My mind was clear, untroubled, and focused on what I was doing. It was a hugely surprising moment.

That’s what alpha brainwaves do for you.

Big Deal Huh?

To someone who likes driving and doesn’t suffer from anxiety, no big deal at all. To someone who’d been frightened for over 40 years – pure unadulterated magic!

It’s an odd thing, but when you’ve suffered from anxiety and start to beat it, your life becomes far more magical and amazing. Obviously I would have preferred that it had always been that way, but hey, take the wins wherever they come from!

To your happiness

Deb xx


Published by debdancingstarhawken7

I'm a writer, public speaker, medium, and spiritual thinker. I suffered from acute anxiety from the age of 16 until I was well into my 50s, after fearlessly exploring many ideas, philosophies, and tools, I finally found methods that helped me return my mind to a better normal. One of the things I hated about anxiety was the way people treated me like a fool or a problem, I have two degrees and I'm a (much) retired black belt, my IQ is decent, but I constantly felt like a complete idiot, something that was exacerbated by never feeling like the real me. The girl who could laugh endlessly about the smallest things, and had a real excitement about what life had to offer her. I didn't need anyone else to tell me I wasn't 'right', I knew that better than anyone. My mission now is to support people suffering as I did with a message of support with what they're going through, tools and ideas that might help, and a strong message of hope for the future. At 63, which I am at the time of writing, many people I know are in a rut, yet having beaten anxiety I'm now doing more with my life than I ever did when I was struggling just to get up in the morning, let alone face the day. It's a wonderful feeling - so the main message is that it doesn't matter how long you've been struggling or what age you are, when you beat anxiety you will get an entirely new lease of life - and that's fantastic at any age. On a personal note I'm married to my soul mate, we have 5 cats, and I live in the middle of the UK. I follow a number of fantastic thinkers, as it's important to immerse yourself in healthy thinking as often as you can, I'm a Toastmaster and professional public speaker, and I keep life simple and encourage my clients to do the same, and my friends.

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