If you’ve been reading this blog you’ll probably have realised by now that there’s been about a 3 month silence after the initial rush of enthusiam.
I’ve found throughout my life that I’m given to wild splashes of activity followed by completely forgetting that I was doing this thing in the first place.
Case in point – this blog.
Important or not?
This blog is extremely important to me, I suffered from anxiety for over 22 years undiagnosed and 35 years before I felt I’d mainly beaten it. So you’d think I’d keep writing wouldn’t you?
However, the most important thing I’ve learned in recent years, which has taken a heck of a lot of pressure off me is:
At times I will lose track of things and let myself down.
The second most important thing I’ve learned is:
I don’t beat myself up about it.
Yes, I started a blog that I hoped would be helpful, kept meaning to do another post and became side tracked. No that isn’t ideal. Yes, I’m only human. Vitally:
At least I’m out here trying to do something to help, trying to do some good.
Instead of Beating Yourself Up…
…and feeding your anxiety over not being good enough:
Learn to accept your humanity as a fact
Apologise if necessary (and I am sorry)
Get back on track
And in my case…read your to do list!
We’re all imperfect, we all try, we all fall down sometimes, but your anxiety will thank you if you relax into who you are, understand that life gets in the way, get back on track, and find solutions to help keep you on track.
I'm a writer, public speaker, medium, and spiritual thinker. I suffered from acute anxiety from the age of 16 until I was well into my 50s, after fearlessly exploring many ideas, philosophies, and tools, I finally found methods that helped me return my mind to a better normal. One of the things I hated about anxiety was the way people treated me like a fool or a problem, I have two degrees and I'm a (much) retired black belt, my IQ is decent, but I constantly felt like a complete idiot, something that was exacerbated by never feeling like the real me. The girl who could laugh endlessly about the smallest things, and had a real excitement about what life had to offer her. I didn't need anyone else to tell me I wasn't 'right', I knew that better than anyone. My mission now is to support people suffering as I did with a message of support with what they're going through, tools and ideas that might help, and a strong message of hope for the future. At 63, which I am at the time of writing, many people I know are in a rut, yet having beaten anxiety I'm now doing more with my life than I ever did when I was struggling just to get up in the morning, let alone face the day. It's a wonderful feeling - so the main message is that it doesn't matter how long you've been struggling or what age you are, when you beat anxiety you will get an entirely new lease of life - and that's fantastic at any age. On a personal note I'm married to my soul mate, we have 5 cats, and I live in the middle of the UK. I follow a number of fantastic thinkers, as it's important to immerse yourself in healthy thinking as often as you can, I'm a Toastmaster and professional public speaker, and I keep life simple and encourage my clients to do the same, and my friends.
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Deb Hawken 