What principles define how you live?
Kindness, inclusion, respect, consideration, thoughtfulness, gentleness, understanding, tolerance. Which is why I find this world so hard to tolerate
From having to hit the car horn if someone dares to want to share a road with you, or refuse to move out of your way instantly in a traffic jam when there’s nowhere to go, to the many crimes littering our streets, this is a damaged society.
Before you start thinking ‘what a negative nelly’ it’s just true and we have to face it to change it.
It’s also true that there are far more better people than unpleasant ones, but crime gets more headlines, and violence is more noticeable. Plus people who believe as I do are shouted down and called deluded and naive, yet we’re right.
Of course, the better emotions are not seen as the emotions of leaders, successes, which is why we get such inept leaders. Had I made Prime Minister to there would have been someone to whom people genuinely matter – on the world stage!
Who’d vote for a weakling who wants everyone to thrive and be happy eh? Far better a sabre rattler with grand words and sod all that’s useful as their legacy.
It also takes b*lls of steel and a determination that would make Margaret Thatcher look weak, to continue to believe as I do and try to be that person.
Watching the deterioration of our societies is challenging me more than ever before. From defence of race spoken in racist terms, to judging by skin colour and gender. Businesses stealing the best years of our lives for a pittance and we can’t see our children grow up as we both have to work. To being forced to work and watching the government try to reduce what little pension they allow us, money we had no choice but to leave in their care. Through to the wider international conflicts and cruelty, including the cruelty on our streets, I’m hanging on by my fingernails and relying on God to get me through.
That’s okay, because my God is a lovely God who will help anyone. He’s what I can never be, but also a superb role model. I ignore the books, God is a feeling. If you feel He allows you to do harm, then you’re not listening. I don’t go to church. I worked out when I was 15 that God wasn’t impressed by your behaviour for an hour or so a week, He sees you all the time.
I try to be worthy all the time, and oh dear Lord I’m not. But I try. I really do try. If I tell you I’m on your side, look, and that’s where you’ll find me. I care only that you and yours are okay. You can only put me off if you do harm.
I actually had to let someone in my life go earlier this year, because they exhibited so much destructive behaviour that in the end I just couldn’t bear it. Do I blame them? No. I wish I could have been stronger.
Trainee Saint?
If you’re thinking I sound too good, or as if I’m trying to be better than others, ruthlessly expunge those thoughts. I’m just trying to be a good person not for a halo, but for what I most sincerely believe with all my heart, that you deserve to be happy and live in safety.
That too many people speak harsh words and tear each other down. Too many casually harm others. Too many deliberately harm others. Too many build themselves up by tearing you down. That and so much more is wrong.
Billions of wrongs and far too few rights. But we’re here. We’re trying. We are the supporters, the cheerleaders, the healers. And there are millions of us in this world. We just don’t make the news. Trying to be loving isn’t interesting is it?
This may be the most heartfelt thing I’ve ever written. The Ukraine and Middle East have knocked me sideways recently. I can’t begin to get my head around it.
I’m coming out of the closet on this because people like me have to. Are you in? If so be fearless. This is the real challenge of our societies. The most critical challenge we face. Time to step up.
My religion is reality
I’m not as religious as I sound. God was a real thing for me for as long as I can remember. I don’t know why. I went to church alone aged 7 and left at 14. I knew there was a loving power, I’ve always felt it, but I wasn’t impressed by my particular church. The vicar was unkind. I’ve met many amazing people of God since.
God is just the English word by the way. Use your own. He because so what? A good parent is a good parent. I’m just used to the term.
To me what God is, is how I am. The only way that beautiful energy can appear on this earth is through us. I prefer the term Source in truth, or the universal energy. Only through our behaviour can the right energy gain traction.
However, in traditional terms, if I had a choice between asking God for a halo, or for you all to be safe, well, and happy, you and everyone, every pet, that you love. Whomever you are. Wherever you are. However you look. Whomever you love. Well…the choice is simple, there is no choice…
And I’ve never really been a hat person.
Deb xx
Deb Hawken - Amorah 