When you connect with the spirit world you discover a world of love and tolerance that doesn’t waste time with blame. They only want you to feel happy, live joyfully, achieve your dreams, and heal yourself so that these things are possible.
It might sound woo-woo but it does make sense, often this world is too critical, too exacting, doesn’t make room for individual experiences, and has far too many rules.
Putting Yourself Back Together
Will not happen by ripping yourself apart. If you are, or become, the person who judges yourself and finds yourself wanting you are not going to heal. You’ll just be continuing the work of the past, and that tends to happen because as a race we’re just too used to being told we’re wrong, etc.
To make this work you need to thank your younger self for getting you this far, and then take control of the reins. We call all look back and see where we could have done better, but no one moves forward safely and happily looking backwards. Imagine walking backwards in life, you’d only see the cliff edge as you passed it on the way down.
The Past No Longer Exists
This is truth. There is nowhere you can go to find it. You can visit people and places and revive old memories, but if someone said to you right now ‘put your finger on the past’ there is nowhere you could put that finger. The past isn’t present.
Except in Your Head
This is the true power you have. You have the choice to think about the past and the damage, or to decide that you know what mistakes you made, who did what, what things worked for you and what didn’t, and to move forward with the lessons but not constantly rebuild the memories.
Yep you rebuild them. We only remember approximately 25% of the past accurately, the rest we recreate by drawing logical conclusions from one event to another. That’s why when people tell stories they change a little every time, they’re not embroidering they’re recreating what they can’t recall.
You can clearly see that a) if you’ve forgotten 75% of what happened there’s not a lot of point in thinking about it, and b) if you want to get well there’s no point in rubbing salt in the wound all the time.
Find Great Thinkers
So your mind needs retraining in order to reprogramme your cells to send back nice emotional feelings as often as possible. Every single major inspirer I know from my mentor to many, many, famous authors and speakers, have their own inspirers. They’ve all been changed by connecting with someone whose ideas changed the way they looked at, understood, and felt about life.
If you read then there is a wealth of information out there. If you don’t like reading you have audio books, YouTube videos, and any number of websites you can visit. You have fan pages on social media where you can engage not just with these people and their ideas, but with their followers, thus finding like-minded people who also want to feel good.
Most Importantly…
You’ll be changing tribes to one where people want to use their minds well, take care of their emotions, train their thoughts to the best outcome, and live a positive, active, happy life of achievement of their own personal dreams.
People who march to the sound of their own drum, and smile happily at those who disagree whilst they keep marching!
Tomorrow I’ll just post a list of people who have helped me.
To your happiness
Deb xx
Deb Hawken 