What is your favorite quote?
I love this one because it’s true. We all need to take control of our thoughts and not let our minds run amok. It doesn’t feel that we choose to be unhappy, anxious, stressed, angry, depressed, but unless these things are clinical or driven by a traumatic life event, we do choose it.
You might think I’m being tough, but I’ve personally learned this to be true. That control of the mind is possible, just by choosing to feel good and aligning your thoughts to that outcome. Dismissing anything that doesn’t fit. Sounds simple? Is simple. Takes practice. Can be done.
I’m not resting on any laurels here, I truly learned the hard way, and it’s work in progress but there is progress.
Following on from quote one, becoming a dancing star is a very good use for hurt, anger, fear, and chaos.
Again, I’ve left my laurels somewhere, so I’ll just have to be human and admit that I messed up but good has come of it.
However, when people or the past hurt you, you truly do only have two choices: keep it or let it go. To keep it only poisons you, you effectively build on what happened. What’s worse you recreate it.
We only remember 25% of the past accurately, we fill in the gaps.
In certain circumstances, such as violence and abuse, the memories are etched into our minds. Let’s not be glib about this. But ordinary upsets are often simply a child’s understand up against an adult’s deeper understanding of life.
That is not to say the adult was right, but viewed in that way, taking into consideration that adults were right in my day and age, I see how the mess happened and I view it more gently. Especially as my mum and dad told me that they often felt wrong but didn’t know what to do. Apparently there was no manual in my nappy when I was born. 🤣
Don’t base who you are on misunderstandings or on the words and actions of others who may just have been struggling themselves.
Which brings us to: just forget it! Which is glib on stilts. Stupid statement. You cannot erase a memory, you deal with it. You control it. Horrible as it sounds it is a fact it takes a severe brain illness or injury to erase memory so…
Take that to heart and seek to take control of the memories, and bat the bad ones away if they bounce back.
I will leave you with something my Frister Katrina taught me:
She said that her dad taught her that if you point the finger at another person, think about where the other three fingers are pointing. That’s stayed with me.
As such I’m not being glib, we’re all in this together, and I’m far from innocent in my life.
We are the creators, much as we’d like to blame the past and everyone who annoys us. Don’t fear that power, take it and rock it! BE the creator of your own dreams, choose your own mindset, what memories and ideas you will focus on, and what you won’t. You have that power.
Best love
Amorah – Deb
Deb Hawken - Amorah 