What is something you wish you could tell your 20-year-old self?
This is who I would want her to be. Strutting her own style, quietly confident in who she is, walking her own path. Quite happy alone.
I would tell her to always be as kind as she is, even though it will do her very little good. You don’t change yourself to match the hang ups of others.
To leave home at the earliest opportunity and never go back. She’s well capable of ploughing her own path.
To accept that she won’t be popular throughout her life, that she will be hurt on a fairly regular basis, in small ways and some not so manageable, but that she’s stronger than all that and has nothing to fear.
She will have true friends in her life, and that will make her the luckiest person alive.
I would tell her not to trust romance, only love, and that she will be lucky if she finds it. But I’d suggest that she doesn’t seek it, let it come to her and only accept it if it’s a good fit, for them both. Be aware of the truth of the other person.
To have a nice modern bungalow with a simple garden, and a modern log cabin as a bolthole, but never a house with all the cleaning and decorating to be done. It’s a lifestyle that won’t suit her.
I nearly said apartment, but I know her, she will rescue pets. She can live with the compromise.
I would tell her to be generous even when others aren’t, so that she doesn’t let them poison her soul.
To do work that she loves. She wasn’t born to do an office job or live a small life. She was born to be wonderfully creative and share so much that helps others through her plays, poetry, and talks. I know she’s a playwright, and a good one. That’s in me.
She should travel, live, experience, laugh.
Most of all I would tell her to love herself, because she is worthy, she is decent, kind, thoughtful, considerate. Most importantly she is not a game player, she is someone you can trust. If she is your friend you have a friend. You can take that to the bank and stake your life on it.
I like her. I love her. I would really love to see her reach for the stars and be her best self: happy, content with what she has, strong, and sufficient in herself.
That would be so nice. Maybe one day a version of me will have all that. Wouldn’t that be something!
Best love
Amorah – Deb
Deb Hawken - Amorah 