When you try to live from the heart, from a place of love and compassion,
you are often wrongly perceived as weak.
A person centred in their heart is often calm and comfortable within, they don’t need to show off, shout louder, demand attention, or create a drama in order to be heard. They simply don’t need the attention.
They also tend to be respectful, compassionate, kind, and if you want one character trait that’s particularly going to be seen as weak, it’s going to be kindness. Woke; doesn’t understand reality; do-gooder; people pleaser.
Living from the heart is easy to do, but it’s not an easy way to be in this often cynical world. You can’t let it get to you, beat you, or change you. The entire point is to feel better about yourself, more certain of who you are and your inner truth, clear about what you want. Don’t sacrifice all that because someone insults you, or your boss tells you you’re not assertive enough to be promotional material. Your partner bullies you just because they can, or your kids play you up because they think they see weakness.
You are stronger than all those people, and big enough to take the insults for what they are:
an opinion that is not yours.
That’s all.
Stay strong!
Poetry interlude
Soft
I am soft
Inside me there is no anger
no malice
no spite
But some think I'm weak
Within the quietness that is me
hidden from their limited vision
masked from their tunnel perception
I am okay with that
The weakness they see
is me not fighting the world
not covering my lack of confidence
with aggression
and certainly not needing to be seen
Respect is nice
but I have no need to demand it
Consideration is like a warm hug
but I'm okay without it
Being heard is respectful
but I hear me
Being seen is not necessary
because it does not validate my existence
I do
Not being myself
and living from the heart
now that would be the breaking of me
I'm not going to
throw myself to the floor
and shatter into pieces
To prove myself to anyone else
Here I am
here I stand
and here I 'be'
All soft power
and no emotional explosions!
Deb Hawken
2026
Conclusion
Living from the heart is a totally different, more positive way of being. Being calm is obviously less stressful. If you achieve it don’t give it up due to the actions and words of others, they won’t pay the price, you will, part of which will be loss of a strong, core identity.
Best love
Amorah – Deb
Deb Hawken - Amorah 