It’s a noisy world out there. From the moment you’re born people are shaping you, filling your mind with ideas from their lives.
Adults are not taught to watch their words around children, and be careful not to fill their mind with ideas. Their ideas.
Our ideas are only right for us.
Practising adult
As an adult you’re supposed to feel capable, know what you’re doing, but the truth is most of us are still stumbling forward because we don’t know what else to do.
If your life isn’t comfortable, if you’re unsettled in one or more areas of your life, you have not got you right.
You’re not living from your heart. At some point you’ve either ignored it or forgotten to question it. Ask what it really wants. The big clue as to when to ask, if you’re dithering over a decision, it may be the logical next step but that doesn’t make it right.
We may be adults, but I wonder how many of us would say ‘nailed it!’, and how many are just doing our best to minimise the missteps.
Human training sucks
From not asking:
Hello little one – who are you?
To never asking:
Hello heart, what do I truly want?
We keep stumbling along, because we’re not taught that what we feel matters. Yet I have three words for you that you can’t ignore:
Stress related illnesses
They exist because we’re not centred in the heart.
Poetic interpretation
Talk to Yourself
Hey heart - you listening?
No - you normally ignore me
I’m feeling lost
I’m not surprised
I’ve been trying to find you
and guide you for years
It’s not my fault I was brought up wrong
How old are you?
How many years have you had to change?
No one told me to change
Really?
That tension in your chest
when you took your last job?
Just nerves
All me - I was showing you
how you would feel
Oh!
Those tears the night before you got married?
Pre-wedding nerves
Pre-misery 24 hour warning from me
Ah!
Do you see?
I guess
What are you feeling?
I don’t know
Ask me!
Okay heart - what am I feeling
and how do I talk to you?
Sit quietly
Relax
Imagine something that makes you happy
Get hold of that nice feeling
Now you feel nice let your mind
slide down into your chest
Imagine your mind sitting inside me
Just breathe
Listen
If you’re in doubt you are right
You know all the logic yet you doubt
Don’t let anyone talk you around
Be with the doubt
Ask me what’s wrong
I will tell you
But you have to hear
How do I hear?
When you feel lighter
When clarity takes the place
of the rock in your chest
When your stomach stops churning
Your mind settles
And you feel centred in yourself
There is no complex technique for this
There will be no clever words
The connection to me will calm you
Centre you in yourself
Realisation will be easy
Now ask yourself
If I do this thing will I lose this feeling?
I don’t know
You will
You will know as soon as you lose it
But that doesn’t give me a solution!
Yes it does
If it feels good - do it
If it doesn’t - don’t
It is that simple
But what about what I’ve already done
Let it go
Decide this is not for you
and look for the answers within
Then take action
Don’t rush
you will only add to the stress
You know what’s wrong
No one else needs to be told
Keep your secret
Take time with your solutions
Step on solid ground
Thank you
You are welcome
Don’t live your life like a battle anymore
Don’t stick to what breaks you
Don’t hold inside what hurts you
Don’t walk a path life pushed you down
You are the power
You could always step away
Stick with me kid
And I will never let you fall again
Deb Hawken
2026
Summing up
Talk to your heart, feel the answers. It might surprise you to know that your heart knows you better than you do. It can answer the question:
Hey big one – who are you?
Best love
Amorah – Deb
Deb Hawken - Amorah 