Have you ever had surgery? What for?
If illness is a trigger for you, you can safely read this.
If mental health is a trigger – you’re also safe to read it.
There is a great deal of scientific evidence that anything that brings back bad memories, or would trigger fear in people, is a bad thing.
I’m obviously sorry that people have had to have surgery, and I’m sure that there are good and funny stories about it, life saving stories. Wonderful stories.
As a medical empath and person who was raised to be terrified of illness, I know how much damage constant talk of it does though. I was raised with that.
They used to call America a nation of hypochondriacs because of all the drugs and cures available at the pharmacist, and they said that the UK would go the same way, we have.
This does not mean that people are stupid, far from it, it means that when you bombard people with negativity from all sides, messages about what can go wrong in life, with the body, the mind, how useless they are so you don’t have to pay them much, or because you’re so weak you need power, you drag them down.
Nowadays in the UK we’re focusing on mental health (not). The young Royals are all over it, time to talk about it. Big stars are all over it, listing all their issues It’s like the worst five star restaurant menu ever.
Don’t they realise that young people tend to want to emulate those they admire. “Oh I’ve got Ariana Grande stress and Harry Kane depression.” Apologies to both if they haven’t but they were the first names that came to mind.
I’m not down, or is it up, with modern life. 🤣
Talking does not work, emotions feed on talking. Meditation to rest the mind does work, visualisation does work, think about the life you want not the one you don’t.
Many young people nowadays are in stressful situations, but telling them how bad it is, making them go over and over and over it again, does not work. I’m qualified by experience to say this, over 50 years of personally walking that path.
Not focusing on it does work. Focusing on happiness does.
As such I have avoided this question, and well done for putting out a menu for the anxious, depressed, and broken mind.
Allow me to offer a different menu.
If ‘normal’ help isn’t working for you…
- Joe Dispenza
- David R. Hamilton PhD
- Joe Vitale “Zero Point”
- Ho’oponopono (Mornaah Simeona, Huw Len)
- Dr Joseph Murphy: The Power of Your Subconscious Mind
- Gregg Braden
- Bruce Lipton
That’s off the top of my head. With the exception of Mornaah, they’re all doctors and scientists. Even it comes to Mornaah she has centuries of healing knowledge and expertise in her blood. She was years ahead of our modern thinking.
Brief example of trusting the old ways
You may have heard of the Chakra system. The idea that humans have 7 energy centres that you must take care of through meditation? Animals have them too.
First mentioned in the Upanishads, part of the Vedas, an ancient Hindu manuscript written from 1500 to 1000 BC! They saw them as coloured light, the rainbow. From bottom to top, red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo, violet. Seven important points of the body
As we are animated by atoms, we are light, we are the rainbow. However, look at this:
The system that runs our body is located in exactly the same place as the Chakras. Never dismiss the ancients.
So…
There is a great deal of scientific evidence proving the power of thought and our minds, and…
We are far better in all aspects of our lives to focus on that.
Unless it’s a new baby, I was born by C section. 😉
Love and more love
I hope any surgeries were wildly successful for you.
Deb xx
Deb Hawken - Amorah 
It must seem rather frustrating and invalidating for you to see other people talk about their negative experiences, as you obviously worked very hard to overcome your own personal challenges. Which is great. But I still think there are benefits to people, even celebrities coming out to discuss their mental health/physical challenges. You’d never know how a story of how someone braced themselves, or even just struggling along, can help others feel better about their own struggles, which goes a long way than just medication or being asked to ‘look the other way’. In the very least, it helps those who are struggling feel seen. Take care.
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Thank you for such a thoughtful comment, but no, I have no problem with different ideas, they’re an absolute necessity. It’s just not right for all, what concerns me is that celebrities can accidentally make it okay for people to be like them, even though their intentions are good.
Different people have different needs and I’ve just said to someone else that each person always has to find what works for them. However, there’s so much scientific evidence about mindset out there now that I’d like to hear that information out there more.
I do sound very determined in that blog I realise, but I’ve seen both sides, and the only one that worked for me was the rest and reprogramme the mind approach. After 40 years of struggle this just feels like one area where I want to pick a side. If that makes sense. In my work I’m client-led.
Xx
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Yes, absolutely. CBT, for example, is basically reprogramming of the mind. Maybe you have seen actual instances of people ‘validating’ their general negativity from people who are actually really, for example, depressed. At minimum, a proactive mindset and willingness to practice mindfulness is the beginning to recovery.
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Yes my brother had that and it was very helpful. For me personally I was trained in negativity so it was the pattern I knew. Willingness to change, wanting not to be unhappy, helps too. But proactivity definitely. Mindfulness I did struggle with, at first it tended to arrive ten seconds later 🤣. I’m reading a really great book on the mind at the moment, “The Power of your Subconscious Mind” by Dr Joseph Murphy.
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I read somewhere that the human mind tends to focus on negative events more, as this is how our primitive brains keep us safe from threats in our non-modern past. So, it is important we don’t be too hard on ourselves. It is great that you are trying, and reading books like the one you recommend really helps. Mindfulness is a muscle that gets better with practice – something I am also trying very hard to do everyday!
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I never stop learning or exercising the right muscles.
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I was born in the 60’s. I lived with parents who both had mental health issues, and a grandmother with OCD.
I built up my resilience, people didn’t talk about it, we got on with it.
For me it worked. Now the more I ruminate over things, and talk about my feelings the worse I feel!
But that doesn’t mean that’s right either!
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I think we all just have to get through it as best we can. What works for a person is always right. They do say that talking reinforces it.
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