As I’ve already said, I mentor not teach. As we all have stuff of the Big Bang in our DNA it indicates that humans are the same age, soul-wise. As are all living things including of course, the cosmos and planets.
As such it feels disrespectful to teach a fellow soul, and it’s also non-productive to be another person who tells a fellow adult that they ‘could do better’. We all need more of that, not!
We don’t have that right, to judge a life we haven’t lived and only think we understand.
For me this is beautiful work: I’m not teaching you, I’m reminding you; I work more easily because I’ve had guides since 1996 you’ll catch up in no time; I’m not better than you, I just discovered this 40 years ago.
Animals know.
I know it was October 1984 as I was having sessions with my spiritual mentor, and kitten Geris made it clear that he would not be prevented from attending every session if it meant screaming at the top of his lungs whilst tearing the door apart. Keith was worried he’d disturb me, he marched in, walked to Keith and curled up beside him, looked at him as if to say ‘go, I’ll just observe’ and co-mentored from there.
I kid you not, the kittens are far too busy knocking over houseplants to sit and settle with us, yet when Tony was resting after a leg injury, these two girls sat with him for hours. They know.
That’s why the respect for soul extends to every living thing. Everything alive has a soul energy.
The point of soul
To me it’s that respect which is missing so much in life. Seeing another human being as not you, but still an equal. Seeing them without seeing skin or gender first. Listening with your heart not your judgement. Turning to spirit for any thoughts you share. It will be wise, insightful, non-judgemental, and kind.
To mentor effectively I have to understand that my job is to throw the doors and windows open, and stand back. I am there to encourage and enlighten, to share every tool in my box and let you choose what they pick up.
The good news is that it’s easy as it’s perfectly aligned with who I am. I do not need to be a leader. I do not need to be the wisest or cleverest in the room, my sense of self is not based on those human ideas. It’s based on my sense of soul and who it calls me to be.
Some people think that the ability to stand back and offer others equal respect and equality is a weakness, they are wrong. It’s a vital step in human development.
As a human I make mistakes, I can accept that, it ain’t easy being human. This thinking doesn’t human-proof you, but being soul-centred makes you stop and think more, avoids who’s wrong and right, and keeps you in neutral until you know what to do.
I turned to Spirit last night and woke up with the perfect next-step for a challenging situation this morning. Gentle, genuinely loving, but authentic.
Self-empowerment is the cornerstone of this approach. It’s the path to self-belief and standing quietly and confidently in your own skin. It enables true self-definition.
It’s the only way to be and know yourself at the deepest level. A level at which you won’t even think in terms of confidence. A self that no one can knock.
Deb xx
Deb Hawken - Amorah 