Weird title I know. But in line with trying out different styles I thought I’d write about a few things that it would be helpful to have known when I was 16. In future there will be a subject title followed by that strange combination of letters and numbers.
Things I wish I’d known at 16
I wish I’d known that mindset was the single most important aspect of my life. That how I thought, what I allowed myself to think, would shape not just my days but me as a person.
Because I didn’t know this I’ve spent a lot of my life undoing a poor mindset, battling with anxiety, and blaming myself for not being perfect. Trying so hard all the time, whereas if someone had told me this at that tender age, I could have started controlling my life in the right way, through a positive, life affirming, optimistic mind.
This isn’t just an idea, many different scientists know the value of the right mindset, and the positive benefits to mind, body, and happiness.
My advice?
Ruthlessly protect your mind. Move away from situations that make you unhappy as soon as you’re sure you can’t make them work. Choose what you believe in carefully. Be discerning. Don’t listen to the world and its brother. Inside you, you know what’s right for you.
Yes you’ll make mistakes, but if you choose to face them and work with them you can put them right, if you can’t you can move on and do better.
You are the power
You are the only person in your life. The only person that truly has any power. If your upbringing convinced you otherwise that upbringing was wrong.
Push doubt and social training to one side, take on that power, be that power, act like that power. Then your life will be what you have made it, not past generations, teachers, bosses, so-called friends, and so on.
It will be all yours, your way.
Deb xx
Deb Hawken - Amorah 