Yes and No

Do you play in your daily life? What says “playtime” to you?

Badminton yes, otherwise no.

My hubby is usually stressed by work, and works long hours. He’s also quite stressed at home because he feels constantly under pressure somewhere. As we don’t have a lot of local support we don’t have holidays or even short breaks.

We’re fortunate that we do have support now, but it’s still over an hour away. No one can cat sit from that distance. So we’re going to need to move but we can’t extend our mortgage at our age so we have to wait.

I used to have lots of hobbies, and knew a lot of good, fun people. I have laughed until I hurt in the past. But that was over 30 years ago when I lived in an area where I knew what was going on, and there was a lot.

Living near Bath was good too as it was great for creativity, the top shows, coffee shops, all kinds of things. It’s a lovely place. Or was…things have changed so much in the UK since Covid. I wonder if other countries are the same?

Not going out

People stay indoors now. They don’t want to connect. You hear the words “I don’t like people” way too much. There are over 7 billion people on this planet, 67 million of which are in the UK; how can anyone possibly know if they like people?

I’m a bit of a recluse now myself, but I do like people, I love meeting new people, I’m always hopeful that there’s a new friend here and maybe a bit of a life. Normally that’s been the case, but not where I live now. I simply can’t find the people to connect with. Turns out I live in the unhappiest town in England. Brilliant…and there’s no good reason for it.

Well except if you don’t go out, connect, have good old fashioned fun, then you won’t feel happy.

Fortunately my beliefs help a lot. It’s why I’m so passionate about them, without them I don’t know what I’d do. I would do something though.

Social media disappointment

I joined to connect with the lovely people I trained with all over the country and the world. Also with Tony’s family in New Zealand. That didn’t work.

I stupidly thought that social media was also about connecting, arranging to meet up, maybe getting to know new people. What else was the point?

I’m sure that other people have been able to meet up and make real connections, and good on you if you have. I really respect that.

Odd bird

I know I’m weird, I’ve never been everyone’s cup of tea in my entire life. I’ve always had good friends though. People I still know. I’m very lucky.

I’m also not unhappy, which might surprise you reading this, as long as the people (including me) and pets I love are okay, I’m capable of finding so much joy in this life.

The sight of the full moon moves me to tears of wonder every single month. A rainbow is just so incredible – we’re seeing light! Animals never fail to make me want more (maybe a zoo?). I once had a real tantrum because I wanted a baby elephant.

I love flowers, trees, the sea, rivers, beaches, a beautifully warm spring or summer day. I could go on and on. I even have a cat who will sit and watch the stars with me now. I have friends and family.

Some fun would be nice though.

Finding the light

I hope this has been a positive blog. So many of us struggle and I don’t write to share my perfection and wisdomness, I write to try to inspire myself and others to create positive change.

I hope if you’re struggling with lack of fun in your life that you too can connect to things that replace the fun with joy and wonder. If you do, please share. I think we can all do with all the inspiration we can get.

Love and smiles

Deb xx