Choices Choices

What was the hardest personal goal you’ve set for yourself?

This isn’t an easy answer for me as there have been many challenges in my life, mostly emotional which affected my mental wellbeing.

Originally I set myself the task of moving on from anxiety, but the problem I had was that I didn’t know what it was and therefore didn’t know how to clear it. Once I did it took less than a month, and I’m normally anxious now, with odd times that I go down a bit.

As you will probably know, anxiety has layers. Layers of reasons, layers of causes, layers of emotions. So once I understood how to clear my anxiety, I realised that all the causes, reasons, and emotions needed dealing with too. Of course, the emotions are cleared by removing the causes.

People!

The obvious is that I needed to either learn how to deal with the people around me, or remove them. What’s less obvious, which I realise as an empath and even if you don’t know you’re one you may be, is that I can be badly affected by outside events that are nothing to do with me. So I had to learn to immunise myself against both.

You may think it’s necessary to walk away from people, and something that does need to happen on occasion, but in fact it’s not necessary. In some ways if you have to keep walking away then you’re not overcoming the problem within yourself. You remain vulnerable.

Now I’m not invulnerable, I am human, but I have learned to stay centred and realise that if someone has a beef with me that isn’t just about me, it’s also about them. It’s a good way of thinking because you take personal responsibility but not all the responsibility. Ultimately they are approaching their life in their way based on their programming and mindset. This can make them feel that what you’ve allegedly done to upset them is more hurtful that what actually happened, they’re reacting to their past and their programming.

That isn’t to denigrate their feelings, they must be respected, but you do have to be aware of that and handle it in the best way you can. Perhaps explain, perhaps apologise that you upset them (not that you were wrong) and clarify in a better way. Failing that, walk away. If you can’t reach someone you’ll both be better off apart. Only you can protect you.

Me

This meant that I had to work within myself to understand my past and triggers, and then find methods to help me to release the negative thoughts and emotions I had.

Since the Ukraine war broke out I’ve had a lot of trouble with angry thoughts that I recognise as not mine, and I had to learn to switch them off, which I’ve done. Now the Middle East has sadly gone to whatever is worse than hell, I’m working on keeping my mind clear of the emotions and energy reverberating around this world.

I have so much compassion, but trying to call in every Angel in existence and beg God to help those poor people, is a better use of the mind. I am furious with those who kicked it off this time, and other aspects of the history of that area, but on the news all I could see is the innocents, and I realise that they are responsible for none of this, they’re just me in a far less safe situation.

This may all sound complicated, with no easy solution, but what I’ve learned through this process is that thinking about problems doesn’t solve them, and sometimes solving problems doesn’t solve them. Here’s a quick free gift that will help if you’re minded to try it.

Simple white light visualisation

We are all soul. The theory in my field is that the soul arrives with the first heartbeat. That’s what creates life. It may sound woo woo to you, but bear with me because it’s incredibly practical in a very odd way.

So you have a soul? The universe is comprised of atoms, there is only atoms, we are atoms, that electrical energy runs our bodies. Atoms cannot be destroyed, and once they form a pattern it never breaks. You can look up people like Joe Dispenza, or http://www.heartmath.org, (correct spelling) for further information. But let’s assume that explanation has weight.

Atoms are as old as the universe, so are you. My first mentor started my path of improvement by suggesting that I could be 10,000 years old and had 1000 lifetimes, as such didn’t I have wisdom and knowledge in myself rather than having to listen to everything everyone said about me? It just felt right, I can’t explain why. But the idea has done me nothing but good.

So we can consider the soul to be you at the atomic level if you prefer, your blueprint.

However, let’s imagine for a moment that wise, knowledgeable energy that is you, and let’s access it.

Technique

Visualisation is not meditation. You don’t have to tie yourself into the pretzel position. Best to relax and close your eyes, but there’s no special breathing. Visualisation is deliberate. It’s a choice. The odd thing with this one though is – don’t think about any problems or issues you may have.

Sit comfortably, breath normally, place both hands over your heart.

Feel the power of your heart. Feel the warmth. Feel that power expand throughout your entire body. Be with that feeling and relax into what it means to be you, what you feel you are. If you’re thinking ‘seriously’, stop thinking. Just feel that warmth and float with it.

Now expand that power out throughout your entire aura/atomic field. You know that you conduct electricity and can spark with a car from a short distance, the organic body can’t contain that field of energy so it’s out beyond you. It acts like a sponge picking up information. When. It’s expanded out…

Imagine/visualise a white light coming down from the heavens, it’s sparkling with energy, clean, pure, unhuman-polluted energy. It’s like rain, washing through your body and energy field, cleansing and purifying.

Finally imagine a beautiful golden light coming down from the heavens and sealing your energy bubble in protective energy. When you’re ready go about your day. You can do this at any time of day, eyes wide open, still focused on the world.

Too simple?

You want complexity when you’re upset? The simpler and easier, the less demanding the better. Give it a try if you feel called to do so.

To quote the super Supercoach, Michael Neill, ‘Might help, can’t hurt!’

Deb xx