What brands do you associate with?
There are many ways to take this question, but I personally see association with brands to mean that you have favourites that represent your personality.
I’m a Gemini!
I’d love a Porsche and a Smart Car, yet it wouldn’t bother me if I never had them.
With clothes I’ve always been as original as current uninspired choices will allow. About twenty years ago I realised that if something was on trend every shop had it, just in different colours and patterns. If it’s that popular you can guarantee I won’t want it, but I’ve had very little choice since the independent clothes shops were squeezed out by brand similar.
I can’t go designer because I’m not in that financial bracket, nor am I the height and shape for expensive off the peg. Plus they’re basically the same styles, as the mainstream shops pinch the ideas.
Often when I write these blogs I learn something about myself in the process, that’s why I love the daily questions. Today I’ve realised something I’ve always known, reconnected to it if you will:
I associate with brand Me!
But that goes deeper than things you can buy it’s about being fully and completely myself.
Mistaken Identity Branding
Do you tie yourself in knots trying to please others, often only marginally succeeding? They always want more? Need more. From you!
They may mutter when you do try to help, complain, tell you you’re wrong, even duck, shift, and fib, but they expect you to be there. at a moment’s notice.
Have you ever looked in a mirror and it’s as if you’re not there? Visually it’s you but kind of hollowed out? Partly missing your best bits?
You get the picture. I could probably list a thousand tiny ways to huge ways that’s happened to you, and me.
Problem is, it’s not necessarily being created by unloving, unkind, people. Merely people who are lost and need an anchor. People who do love you.
That’s the trap.
Unable to be yourself because you’re too busy being everyone else because they love you and you love them.
It has to stop.
You were born to be a unique individual, you need to be that person, make space for them, otherwise you’ll struggle to be truly happy.
Stand up for you as you would for others. Quietly but firmly as an old fashioned panty girdle; think four pairs of Spanx at once reinforced with parcel tape.
Treat you as a person you love and respect, dig under that pile labelled ‘other people’s rights and needs’ find you and be yourself.
Brand you is the foundation brand that we all need to attach to, brand overwhelmed, under pressure, and confused is way past its sell by date. You’re not.
Deb xx
Deb Hawken - Amorah 