The Law of Attraction is a more complex thing to understand than at first appears. It’s often sold simply as: decide what you want, ask for it, you get it. It was quite a while before a guy I follow, Mike Dooley (www.tut.com), added “visualise, show up, do something.” That’s the Law of Attraction plus action.
Step One
The solutions to manifesting are many-fold though. Firstly you have to know what you want, if you don’t you can’t manifest it. The saying above basically explains manifesting.
When you send out a vague thought of something you may want in your life, without thinking that thought through to it’s conclusion, remember that the universe can be very literal, ask for abundance and you could get an abundance of house mice, dry rot, and woodworm.
Focus down to ‘abundance in…’
Step Two
Do you believe that you deserve a great life? Do you find that you like the idea of having complete financial security but you’re assuring the universe that you will give lots of that money away because you’re not self centred? That’s a mixed message. It’s worth noting that the first UK lottery winner of the large European lottery, £164 million, got through that money within 2 years. It’s gone. Did they feel that they deserved it? Good question.
So as you’re working out what you want in your life, make sure there are no secret hang-ups (all rich people are selfish), fears (what will people think of me?), concerns (will I lose all my friends through jealousy…will my family suddenly realise that they do like me?). That sort of thing.
The reason these hang-ups get in the way is that often you’re trying to manifest what you don’t want. You may think it’s money when actually it’s just happiness. You may think you want to move house when actually you love your house. If you can’t visualise with a clear mind, certain that you want something, if you can’t visualise it in detail, sit back and think on what you really want out of your life.
I know that I want:
- Inner peace
- Perfect health
- Happiness
- Financial security
- Holidays abroad
- And although you can’t manifest for others, I couldn’t live with myself if I didn’t at least ask for the same for my husband, cats, friends and family (and with the family and friends I have now those are interchangeable terms).
I was trying at one time to build a vision board with the kind of house I wanted, the kind of holidays, clothes, and on and on and on. But that top level up there would cover all the stuff, whereas without inner peace, perfect health, happiness, financial security, and those I love of all leg numbers being well and happy, the stuff would mean very little. You could even say that peace of mind, great health, happiness, and financial security, would cover everything. With all that you can make the rest work.
You may find starting at that top level of what’s really important helps.
Step 3
Apart from visualising all that, turning up in your life, and doing something, that pretty much covers it except for one small thing:
Do you believe in the Law of Attraction/Cosmic Ordering/Manifesting?
Lack of belief is the number one underminer of all the above. If it helps, Simon Cowell does a vision board every year, he said so on America’s Got Talent. A vision board will clarify your mind as long as what’s on it is true.
The good news is that you don’t need to believe in the Law because it works anyway. It’s also one of 12 Laws that work together and knowing the rest does help. You can find them on http://www.thelawofattraction.com.
However, there’s a deeper question than do you believe, do you believe that you deserve what you’re asking for? If you feel a mental hitch when visualising take a look at that feeling, what’s it about?
More important, do you believe you’re the sort of person who doesn’t have to go looking for problems, if you wait long enough they’ll come and find you? Do you think about problems and what’s wrong with your life more than you think happy thoughts? Do you pre-worry about things and then they happen, thus proving you right?
Or to put it another way, thus proving that the Law of Attraction works.
There’s an old adage that what you think about you bring about. What you focus on grows stronger. Your thoughts create actions that attract outcomes. There is some good news if you’re a person who struggles in life, struggles to believe they deserve the best, you just need to make a simple switch in your thinking:
- Think a bad thought
- Change that to a better thought
- Focus only on the better thought
In this way you will train yourself to think about what you do want not what you don’t. I’ve rarely known anyone who can make an instant mind-switch from one type of thinker to another, and if you pressure yourself to do so you will only start worrying about the way you’re thinking, which of course means that you’re now focusing strongly on the bad thoughts. Just begin by working to gain control.
- Change “I don’t deserve the best” to “everyone deserves the best including me”
- Change “It selfish to have everything I want” to “The universe is full of abundance and there is more than enough for everyone. So everyone can have everything they want.”
- Change “My friends think it’s selfish to want the best of everything” to “My friends are not me and I know my having the best doesn’t prevent anyone else from getting the same.”
And most importantly, run everything past the happiness test: If it makes you happy that’s a yes, if you don’t know try it, if it’s a no stop doing it or don’t do it.
Life is no more complex than that.
To attracting much deserved happiness
Deb xx
P.S. Happy people are an inspiration to others…so you might say that it’s only fair to be as happy, healthy, and successful as you possibly can. Just saying.
Deb Hawken - Amorah 