What’s something you’ve forgiven but haven’t forgotten?
To me they’re too simplistic. Plus I’m not sure what forgiveness is.
Once you’ve been hurt by someone it’s always going to be in your memories, and part of that relationship. To me you either part ways or talk it through then move on in a different way with a commitment not to get to that point again.
Often a situation isn’t one person’s fault, you have to ask questions and understand each other. However, what you don’t do it keep putting up with it. As my mother said:
An apology is an action, you say sorry then you don’t do it again.
Mind you, Maradonna’s of Hand of God still rankles. You could clearly see a handball on the film but the Ref found otherwise. Not only was it unfair, but it taints the win. Some countries are more relaxed, but we Brits believe in fairness and honour, so that match will always be burdened with that moment.
Even so…
All in all forgiveness is the ability to move on, repair what’s broken, and put it firmly in the past where it belongs, unless it happens again.
However, if someone nicks your chocolate all bets are off and a declaration of war is not out of the question!
You have to have standards and the important red lines cannot be crossed. That’s mine.
I'm a writer, public speaker, medium, and spiritual thinker. I suffered from acute anxiety from the age of 16 until I was well into my 50s, when I finally found methods that helped me to put it behind me. My struggles led to me exploring life through poetry, then plays, and over a 15 year period I made notes for a self help book which I published in 2015. Details on the book page. Although I am a psychic medium and loved the work, it didn’t feel right for me. It was an utter privilege, but my path was the exploration of what it means to be spirit in the real world and how we can make practical use of those abilities. Nowadays I write, blog, and teach soul-centred living, which is a gentle way of undoing past programming and connecting to your essential self, or soul. If you’re interested email me and we can chat. No pressure, it’s right for you or it’s not and you will know. The groups meet on line so no going out on cold, wet, winter’s evenings. On a personal note, I’m based in the UK. Married with five cats, no children, and four grandchildren, thanks to our inherited daughter, who has gifted us four beautiful little people that bring us such joy. Hope you enjoy the blogs. Deb xx
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