What’s your top tip to be successful in life?
I didn’t have either of those and talent wasn’t enough without them.
Every time someone was spiteful to me, as people tend to be if you put your head above the parapet, I backed off.
I was trying what I was trying for the love of it, just to write! For the fun of it. To put a team together and see what we could achieve between us.
Twice I tried and both times it was extremely hurtful. On the second attempt my co-writer thought he knew how to produce better than me. Eventually I walked away as the cast were all friends of his.
My main problem was, and still is, that I’m a team player. I love putting a group together and seeing what we’ve got. We’re not exactly in the majority.
Few people like their authority, or sense of being the best, threatened. Some people can deal with that kind of behaviour, and I admire them so much. I wasn’t one of those people at the time. I had enough problems without what should have been great fun being turned into a stress-fest.
Let’s get upbeat
Having sketched in the background, I would say to anyone who wants to be successful, that the most important thing is to trust yourself.
You will make mistakes, have hiccups, wish the ground would open up and swallow you at times, feel like taking to drink (don’t!); of course you will. But through it all you must maintain your belief in your aims, your belief that you can achieve them, and your belief in yourself.
There will be learning curves, but the mistakes and the curves will be the making of you if you let them. A side tip, if you’ve made a mistake come up with the solution before you confess. It’s so much stronger.
Those less able or talented will jump on any weakness and pulverise you with it. To say “I got this wrong but this is how I’m putting it right”, is to come from a position of power and command (of the self). That’s what you need to demonstrate.
Ultimately there is one vital thing you must never forget:
If you think you can do something, you can!
Best love
Amorah – Deb
Deb Hawken - Amorah 