Dear Me!

Write a letter to your 100-year-old self.

What on earth were you thinking? Why did you accept so much unhappiness? Why didn’t you follow every dream, chase it down, tame it, and make the very best of it?

I know, ‘the past’, what two words are more demoralising in life than those? The past made us, the past can break us, and if it doesn’t some of us spend our entire lives trying to cope with and overcome it. How is that even a thing?

How can what came before be more important than the now? Okay I get it, it was all programmed in before we were old enough and had enough experience to realise what was happening and put a stop to it. I do understand that, but somehow it’s all wrong and it’s sad to know how wrong it is with the wisdom of hindsight.

As a friend once said to me “20/20 hindsight would only be useful beforehand.” That was so true.

Just in case I decide to come back here

Reincarnation and all that!

Let’s head a few things off shall we?

• Every single human being deserves only the best.
• Happiness is the only thing that matters, you can build a great life from that baseline.
• Nothing is more important than feeling good, so remove anyone or anything from your life that compromises that feeling, or makes you fight for it.
• Life is not a fight it’s a journey, some people in my centuries (I’ve spanned two) have lived their entire life fighting for their sanity, for happiness, for enough money to survive, and too often enough food to survive. That’s not how it’s supposed to be.
• Love is everything but romance is not! Read that again. We too often accept bad treatment from people who say they love us, whilst doing the opposite. Actions speak louder than words, read that again and remember it! It’s the most under-appreciated cliché of all time.
• Don’t be proud of having fought for your sanity and mental health, it is a very brave thing to do, but it is also a waste of time and energy. If you’re fighting for those things work out why, and change them. Walk away. Put yourself first, no one else will.
• You are actually, factually, the only person in your life, and the person who must, must, must, love you the most. If you don’t love yourself you will put up with too much for too long.
• Laugh, as often as you can at as much as you can. Comedies not thrillers, humour not misery. Friends who make you laugh not drag you down.
• Go out, engage with the world, have real friends. Travel! That way you’ll never become a bigot because you will understand other peoples’ and the lives they lead, and why. It’s such a gift.
• If social media still exists avoid it like the plague, especially if it’s as badly controlled at is it now. Real people, real places, real experiences. That’s the key.
• Find work that you love, that calls to your heart. Don’t let anyone push you into work that you hate, as soon as you can change that. You know you were pushed into a pointless career in this lifetime, no one gets to do that to you again.
• You are the only power in your life, take that power, be that power, and live that power. Otherwise you will never truly know yourself or achieve much.
• Change anything about your character that does not support happiness. You may have been raised as a mess but you can change that. Do it! Nothing is set in stone unless you let yourself calcify into the shape of your ancestors and teachers.
• If you are a woman do not accept poor treatment, if you come back as a man don’t deliver that. Without two genders there is no you, do not forget that!
• Inclusion is so important, but inclusion means that you talk to other people, you don’t judge from your own viewpoint. If you are not LGBTIQ you factually do not know what that means. Ask! Whatever race, colour, gender, religion, you are is not the best.

There is so much more but…

Ultimately how you feel about yourself dictates the life you will live. You will get to an age that you will question your parents and teachers, do that fearlessly. You’ll probably find they raised you fearfully, and taught you from their own perspective.

You have to create your own perspective. Make it a good one.

The world needs more thoughtful, considerate, compassionate warriors for peace and inclusion. It does not need more haters, murders, abusers, liars, and cheats. It certainly does not need one more war monger, ever!

Never back down to those people, if they still exist which I hope they don’t.

Just for you

I’m imagining my future self, or other people, somehow stumbling over this blog, so I will leave you with this, take it to heart, put a copy on your wall, read it every day.

Best love

Amorah – Deb