Today’s snippet is from the Getting Ready to Change section of the book; subsection The future.
The first line is so important “Written in a present that can no longer be affected by your past and subject to your willingness to be different.”
This is important because if you want your future to be better then you must be prepared to change and develop as a person to achieve that aim.
When we don’t change we may achieve a tweak of improvement here and there, but the commitment to be a person who is going to create a better future because they can cannot be overestimated.
Things to consider
- Your current actions: how could they be more beneficial to you?
- Your self-awareness: never try to fool yourself, face yourself fearlessly with eyes wide open. You may have made mistakes in the past but you are only human.
- Your willingness to be different: You must be the change you want to see.
- Your willingness to take responsibility for your own life and choices: If you blame the past, your parents, people of the past, and so on, you give your power away. Take responsibility without blame. See what happened, improve it.
- Be truthful with yourself: You don’t need to tell anyone else what you did or how you feel about it, it’s only important that you know. That knowledge is your tool for change.
- Living mindfully: Instead of looking back asking ‘why didn’t I realise that?’ be mindful of what you’re trying to achieve, what you’re feeling, how it’s working out. Review each step and make sure you feel great about the changes you’re making. If you don’t, stop and reflect, better to tweak than have to clean up a mess.
- Being willing to get things wrong, and regroup and keep going: It’s very rare that you will know exactly what you want to do and how when you start out, so expect that some things won’t go right. That’s okay, this is a voyage of discovery and work in progress. Even the best inventors didn’t get everything right first time. Thomas Edison, alongside Joseph Swan, invented the light bulb. It is rumoured that Edison blew up his lab several times, but when an assistant suggested he’d failed 6 times he commented that he’d actually discovered how it would not work 6 times.
Finally, don’t think about the past all the time, especially as a burden. It’s a treasure house of advice for you, use the advice, concentrate on the now to build the future you want.
I have taken a bit of licence with the book in the blog, it’s a precis with a few new thoughts thrown in, but it’s essentially the same. Life moves on, reading my book now there are parts I would move on. It doesn’t mean the book wasn’t good when I wrote it, but we live, learn, and apply. So I applied some new thoughts here. Remember though:
The past is yours to create – create thoughtfully.
Best love
Amorah – Deb
Deb Hawken - Amorah 