What’s the biggest risk you’d like to take — but haven’t been able to?
Apart from that, I am not interested. It’s a quiet life for me. I’m a bit of a rebel, but not in matters I’d discuss. I look well behaved but quietly inside I do my own thing.
It makes me laugh when people tell me I’m too conformist, not everyone has to batter their beliefs in via arguments and insults, some of us can quietly be ourselves.
Interesting side issue here
Social media has taught us how many bullies we have in the world, but it has also skewed our perspective.
Those who shout loudest drown out the voice of reason. But in truth reasonable, open-minded people will test the water to see if reason will be accepted, then they will simply back away and leave the bullies to shout.
The bullies think they’ve won, but nothing could be further from the truth, they’ve been dismissed.
In life we are taught to stand up to bullies, starting in the playground. In truth it’s often a waste of time and energy.
No one incapable of change will change their behaviour. Hear what they say, watch what they do, and if actions don’t match words, walk away.
It’s worth remembering this.
Whether you’re being bullied physically, emotionally, or both, you are with the wrong people. Possibly because you were raised to believe you were worthless, useless, or both.
It can also be that you’ve never experienced that kind of treatment in your life and have no capacity to deal with it.
Whichever it is, understand one very simple thing:
It doesn’t stop unless you walk away.
It’s very easy to start going round and around in your head thinking you must deserve it for some reason. Making excuses because you love the person, or think you do.
You risk your health, your sanity, your happiness and your future if you stay near those people
Ask yourself if it’s a risk worth taking?
A risk that gives you an amazing experience? Yes! One that leaves you demoralised and beaten, even physically beaten? That’s a very simple and definite no.
Seek help if you need to, but make a plan and get out.
They’re not worth an ounce of your time, let alone the risk.
Best love
Asking for strength for anyone going through this
Amorah – Deb
P.S. Yes I know what I’m talking about, emotional abuse nearly destroyed me.
Deb Hawken - Amorah 