I’m opening the book randomly to let the universe decide what I share each day. Today it’s this.
I used to do an event called “The Do Something Tour” with a former colleague. We would turn up in a hall and ask the audience for six things that were annoying or upsetting them. Then give them a spiritual spin on the subject, together with some techniques, meditations, and visualisations to take away with them to help them cope with everyday life.
One lady called out “Friends who betray you!” which we wrote on the flip-chart. As I stood back and looked at it, the answer was obvious that I couldn’t resist going over, taking a red marker, and crossing out the word friends, and saying “That’s that one sorted, next?”
The person who called out said, “It isn’t that simple.”
To which I replied “Yes it is.” For a moment it seemed that the person would continue to disagree. Then the light dawned, and she said, “Oh it is! They can’t be friends if they betray you.”
It’s that simple. If a person you consider to be a friend betrays you, then that person is not a friend. Don’t complicate it more than that. Deal with the facts.
Reflecting
I like to reflect back on what I wrote in the book as I do these snippets, and think about the message now with 10 years more experience.
For me the main message of this section is wider than friendship, it’s about trusting what you see and hear and seeing if the actions match the words. Actions speak louder than words is not a cliché, it’s a simple truth. If a person says something watch what they do. We all know the right words to say in any given situation, but people will always act out their truth.
It doesn’t necessarily make anyone a bad person, some people don’t have the confidence to say no in case you become another person that hates them. Some really want to do what they say they will do, but then don’t feel able to do it. We’ve all had the “I wish I hadn’t agreed to that moment.”
However, the important thing is that you’re discerning, and you trust your eyes and ears. Most importantly, you value yourself enough to make a decision to stop being hurt.
Best love
Amorah – Deb
Deb Hawken - Amorah 