Book Snippet: Deserving p.90

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This snippet comes from the second section of the book: Getting ready to change.

It’s about ‘deserving’. We humans don’t realise how often we subconsciously believe that we don’t deserve all that’s good.

I chose this page at random, see what you think

Deserving

Here’s another misconception you need to ignore until it goes away. There is no deserve, there is only being and living.

Don’t even ask yourself if you deserve to be happy, fulfilled, abundant, successful, slim, and gorgeous, in love, a parent, financially secure, or any of the other things we constantly subconsciously tell ourselves we don’t deserve. Put all that to one side as too old-fashioned to deal with.

You have no idea where you’re going to end up, and by the time you get there you’re going to be having too much fun to even recall why you thought you didn’t deserve happiness. The idea simply won’t occur to you.

Reflecting

Even without the context of the rest of the section, which is changing your attitude towards life, particularly the cliches that are trotted out as a belief system, this point is very strong.

You can choose to believe that you’re undeserving, or you can fight the feeling. That will put you in a battle of still feeling undeserving and now being cross with yourself because you can’t beat the feeling.

That’s why it’s important not to even ask yourself about being deserving. Work out what you want to do, what would make you happy, then get out there and just try to make it happen. If you’re asked if you deserve all that, just say you’re not even thinking about it, it’s something you want to try and you’re trying it.

Letting go is a great idea, but when an idea is trained into you it can be hard. That way, moving into an experimental phase of your life and seeing what happens, you don’t even have to consider deserving because you’re just seeing what happens. If you achieve what you want to achieve there is no doubt of one thing:

You’ve put the work in – so you will deserve it.

I wish you much love and a happy mind

Deb xx

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I'm a writer, public speaker, medium, and spiritual thinker. I suffered from acute anxiety from the age of 16 until I was well into my 50s, when I finally found methods that helped me to put it behind me. My struggles led to me exploring life through poetry, then plays, and over a 15 year period I made notes for a self help book which I published in 2015. Details on the book page. Although I am a psychic medium and loved the work, it didn’t feel right for me. It was an utter privilege, but my path was the exploration of what it means to be spirit in the real world and how we can make practical use of those abilities. Nowadays I write, blog, and teach soul-centred living, which is a gentle way of undoing past programming and connecting to your essential self, or soul. If you’re interested email me and we can chat. No pressure, it’s right for you or it’s not and you will know. The groups meet on line so no going out on cold, wet, winter’s evenings. On a personal note, I’m based in the UK. Married with five cats, no children, and four grandchildren, thanks to our inherited daughter, who has gifted us four beautiful little people that bring us such joy. Hope you enjoy the blogs. Deb xx

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