If you were going to open up a shop, what would you sell?
I’d be bored in a shop. I need to be busy.
I obviously thought I’d go down the lines of “I’d sell happiness”, but in truth I’ve said a version of that a dozen times. Dreams are nice but it can get repetitive.
Happiness has to be found within, by you, there’s no other way to find it. No other place. You have to be the happiness you want to experience, but life can make that hard.
It’s been my biggest challenge. I’m going to go away and meditate in a minute on “I’m happy because…”
Then I’m going to work out some new ways to change things for the better.
I’ve been more depressed sometimes than I’ve ever been in my life in recent years, and I’ve used a lot of energy that could have gone into better things, fighting that. But my flat feeling has a real basis that we’re working on changing.
Non-clinical depression is a lot easier to manage because it has life causes that can be identified and changed.
I’ve discovered one thing though, if you forget about something completely, it goes. Aching shoulder, happy busy mind, “oh my shoulder doesn’t hurt. Ow!” Feeling depressed then you find a project to absorb you? You’ll notice the difference.
If you can find something to make you happy then you will forget about the unhappy.
So let me leave this with a free gift from the shop I don’t have:
Change your mind – change your life
Find something that makes you happy and give it your full focus.
But it’s important that it’s proactive and requires you to do something you love doing. From partying to creating quietly. It’s stopping doing in life that causes problems.
My cats have always been my happiness and sanity. I’ll never regret that. But I am now isolated indoors with nowhere I want to go, and nothing to do.
Never stop living your life. I didn’t want to, it just went that way because I’d never heard of mindfulness. I believe that my experiences were born to be put to good use.
Mindfulness is more than you may realise, it obviously has to apply to others, but it’s most important use is to isolate yourself in your mind.
Take everyone else’s thoughts, needs, and ideas out of your mind, and ask yourself “am I happy?” If not work out why not and change it.
If you live because of other people you will lose yourself. Don’t do it.
Worse still, your children might emulate you. Teach them that they have a right to live, and be alive!
Wish I did have a shop selling happiness! I’d just give you a bottle and watch you walk away smiling. I’d be happily broke in no time, and yes I would keep some for myself. 😍🤣😍
Best love
Deb xx
Deb Hawken - Amorah 