If you haven’t seen these films, they’re about a team of scientists changing their appearance so that they can live on an alien planet and learn about the people.
They’re amazing films, although I preferred the first one, but the thing I love about them the most is that they don’t say “I love you”, they say:
I see you
To me that’s important. We humans often fear each other, perceive differences before we even engage with a person, stand back because they’re not the same race, colour, gender, or religion. We avoid true engagement.
Bi-engagement
To genuinely engage with another person you need to see them in two ways:
- As a human being like you
- As a person you know nothing about
If you then work to expand your seeing, approach them full of questions, learn about them, understand them, find out what motivates them and why, then you will be fully engaging with that person.
Beyond all those perceived differences
Before you can love a person you need to see them, that will help you to know them, and then you will know if you love them, or like them.
But if you prefer to judge in your mind and make that person fit your perceptions, then you will be engaging with your version of them, and your judgements will have no truth to them.
See the fact of shared humanity
See that they are not you and cannot be judged or understood in line with who you are
See them for who they are, and understand why from that perspective
That’s pretty much all prejudice eradicated right there, by looking, listening, and learning, first.
What you see is not what you get. That only happens on a two-dimensional computer screen.
That’s the surface, plumb the depths, see with your eyes, listen with your heart. Learn to love without barriers.
Save the world.
Best love
Amorah – Deb xx
Deb Hawken - Amorah 