I Don’t Have a Day Job

How do you balance work and home life?

Goodness this one has taken all day. I just couldn’t get to where I wanted to go. However, here I am.

So, I gave up the day job years ago after an awful experience that finished me forever.

I moved into working in the Spiritual field, which sadly wasn’t much better. There were many reasons for this, the one that affected me the most and made me step away took a while to work out.

That doesn’t concern me as life is a journey and whilst you may become frustrated at times, no experience is ever wasted. I do wonder if I’d be as I am now without the entire journey, my guess is no.

Eternal seeking

There I was, a day job didn’t work for me, two university degrees didn’t work for me, I still couldn’t get a job and was asked to take them off my CV, to give myself a better chance (of landing right back in the place I’d spent four years of hard work escaping from).

Boy was I disheartened.

I was already working with a spiritual mentor, I already had a Spirit Guide, and I decided to take some more training on mediumship so that I felt able to try that as a career. It still wasn’t me.

I then did goodness knows how many courses to add to my knowledge base, including life coaching, the law of attraction, Infinite Possibilities Trainer, and others I’ve forgotten. Nothing sat right, nothing worked, because I was looking in the wrong place.

Inside out

Life is not lived externally. You are not what happens to you, what people around you think, what it makes sense for you to do.

You are not your schooling, your degree, your training, your mother or father. You are your life experience and your beliefs, but that’s the tip of a very large iceberg with unfathomable depth.

You are not the last interesting thing you read, unless you find yourself acting on that knowledge, you’re just a library.

My Balance

I don’t have work/life balance. I have a life. If my work seems separate to my life then it’s not the right work for me.

You may say that I’m lucky that I can do what I want, but if everyone found a career that meant something to them then work would not have such a great impact. It would not be an either/or split in your life.

I really cared about the job I had before the last horrible one, and had no trouble going to work at all. I had no choice but to take it, and it was in the career I’d hated.

Yet I’d never been so happy at work because it was in line with who I am as a person, and my actual role in the organisation was irrelevant. It fitted my heart and made sense to my true self .

Why did it take so long to find that out?

I didn’t question

And I didn’t fight for myself. My parents forced me into work, forced me into a career that they genuinely thought was good for me. In my day and age your parents were always right, you didn’t question, you weren’t taught to question, ever! Not unless you had rather unique parents.

Mine were genuinely trying to help, but the lack of training to be myself worked against me. They honestly thought they were bringing me up in the right way. I love them for that. The problem going forward was me and my limited thinking.

All the knowledge I’d gained didn’t help me in the right way. Finding my soul self did. But I don’t beat myself up over it because I now understand that if Amos hadn’t taught me this, I would never even have known where to look.

What he teaches isn’t in books, it’s inside you.

Besides

Would I have walked away from the spiritual field even though I can be an excellent medium, because well suited as I seemed it was wrong for me?

Could I have supported my groups the way I do if I hadn’t made those mistakes?

I honestly think the answer to both questions is no. I have watched those mistakes change lives, including my own. I often feel so lucky that at 67 I feel a thousand times better than I did at 27, 37, 47, 57. I feel utterly blessed.

Walking my life path in an authentic way, has meant those mistakes have paid dividends. Not just to others but to me.

The key difference in the way I work to the spirituality I was taught by humans, is that I’m seeking the real you. It’s taught in a way that doesn’t exist in classic human training.

It doesn’t rely on you changing, being better, improving. It relies on you finding your soul and living from that higher self. A self that is strongly linked to the love of the universe, the clarity and purity of a world unaffected by the shenanigans of humans. Or our beliefs.

A world of love and wisdom that we belong to even now in human form, where our superconscious still lives, and where every piece of knowledge we’ve gained since the Big Bang is stored.

That’s what I introduce others to, themselves, with full acceptance of the challenges of the human condition. Just working to feel better and cope more easily via working from a mind uncluttered by earthly noise. A place where thinking clearly is not a remote dream, it’s just natural.

It really helps.

Will some of you reading this find that there’s no clarity here? No carefully laid out plan of the 3 steps I’ll take you through to change your life? I’m sure that will be the case.

The uniqueness of my work says “how can I tell you how I’ll help you until I know you?” You’re a unique individual, I don’t do one size fits all work. That’s for coaches.

I do hello, how are you, lovely to meet you, let’s work together and see what happens. I do being there at midnight if you’re upset, not minding if you forget what day it is and turn up late, I just laugh.

I do accepting anger, tears, frustration, feeling lost, and so do my groups. Some people struggle so badly in life, but when they find us they just receive loving support for as long as they need it.

Oh it’s hard watching them suffer, but they can move forward in their own time, in their own way, and I take the time to help them find it.

We’re just a group of normal human beings, finding life easier, recognising our own issues, not expecting others not to have them.

But in partnership with Amos, I can help.

And no, I still don’t have a day job, I have an integrated life where everything I do is part of who I genuinely am.

Every word in this blog is true because I am this person, this belief system, and this work.

Best love

Deb xx

If this feels right to you and you’d like to explore, just email me. 💖