Lazy Days

How do you unwind after a demanding day?

I don’t really have demanding days as a norm. I’m a writer, pretty much left to my own devices, and of course servant of cats.

I do find myself more relaxed when I’m alone, with the exception of a few very special people who allow me to be myself.

I love having the cats around me, I enjoy meeting their needs and seeing them happy, and I’m very fortunate that very little is needed to make me feel good.

Yet I also love in this world which brings challenges as we all know.

Reality

We’re living a reality now that I never expected to see. My grandparents generation were shocked that one world war wasn’t enough, now mine are somewhat unsettled by the fact that apparently two won’t do.

It’s not so much that all power corrupts, it seems that power drives inhumanity and insanity. You have to be beyond insane to kill children.

However, let’s not be too grim. The point of this is that what I most need to rest from, to somehow unwind from, is the way we humans treat each other. Not just politicians, not just warmongers, not just the violent and evil, but ordinary people who think they’re right.

Social media has shown us a lot about the basic ‘us’, the ordinary elements of society who consider themselves to be justified in the words they speak, the things they post, and the actions they take.

In amongst those people are millions of decent human beings, many of whom have abandoned social media, as I mainly have. Yet decency is labelled woke and love is labelled as a joke.

Unwinding

Can only be done by remembering the importance of love and doing your utmost to embody it.

God is love is a helpful clue if you believe in a God.

Getting into the feeling is immensely calming if you can do it, if you can you won’t want to be anywhere else but in that moment. Ever.

This will encourage you to keep thinking about love not war, healing not hurt, kindness not spite. It will do you the world of good inside, and out.

The feeling attracts people who want to feel the same, it heals the mind which in turn can heal the body. It makes you a light in the darkness, good for children to be around, and lightens every situation you’re in.

I didn’t have it, now I do have it, and I know this to be true. I walked into a workplace and was instantly the most unpopular person there, for no good reason, they were just spiteful people. I hadn’t been there two minutes before I was insulted.

Between that and my marriage I became broken, I healed myself, I found that inside me was a generous person who wanted those around them to feel good. When I left I was the most popular person in the place.

That taught me a lot about how we should be. How much better being that way makes you feel, and how much support you can offer others when you’re not twisted up with bitterness.

I am so glad and grateful for the input of my mentor, my teachers, my inspirers and my friends. I am blessed with such amazing people in my life that I would never have attracted unless I cleared that energy from my being.

Icons

One person who I deeply respected was Pope Francis, whom we lost this morning. I am not a Catholic, but I know a good man when I see one. I recall that he personally called his newspaper seller the day after he became Pope to cancel his regular order. That is decency and humility in action.

As with our late Queen Elizabeth, he was working a handful of hours before he died. He turned up where he was needed and despite great ill health he spoke to his people. They were truly blessed, as we were, with a fine example to remind us always how to be.

The upshot

Is that unkindness winds me up more than anything, but the many amazing people I meet, know, and whose work I read and follow, including you bloggers out there, are what gives me hope. You might say you unwind me.

Positive emotions are the great unwinder.

Lots of love always

Love to all the Catholics out there today

Love to the transgender people who are struggling

Love to all

With love we will solve problems together.

Deb xx