Proof of Memory

Describe something you learned in high school.

You’re asking me to go back 53 years, fortunately I can, yet nothing of an educational nature comes to mind. Other than Paris being the breadbasket of France.

Our Geography teacher believed that if you used knowledge and humour together, children would recall more. She told us that when I was 14, and I still recall that at that time, most of the wheat was grown around Paris.

Humour is more valuable than most people realise. Laughter is the best medicine and all that. It’s also a good way of memorising things:

“As Deb was leaving the house she stepped on her spectacles, fell over a cat, and landed in the en suite” That covers remember your glasses, feed the cats before you go out, and don’t forget to go to the loo before you get in the car, otherwise you’ll need to as soon as get on the motorway and the services will be 25 miles away!”

Humour is useful and practical.

Perhaps that is singularly the most important thing I learned at school.

I’ve been surrounded by a lot of genuinely troubled people in my life and I felt at one point that my sense of humour was dead. It’s an awful feeling not to be able to find something that amuses you. Of course it’s a huge part of depression. It’s emotionally dangerous when the laughter stops.

Today’s loving suggestion

Your thoughts are your life.

Monitor your thoughts and take them very seriously if they become more bleak or worried, than humorous and dreamy.

If you stop noticing birdsong, the beautiful skies, the laughter of children, don’t melt when you see a baby, or favourite animal etc., and your mind doesn’t find things to laugh at each day. Be concerned.

If you’re dragging yourself out of bed in the morning, doing what you have to do, and struggling to cope. If you’re too down to even cry. You can’t sleep at night.

These things are clear warnings that all is not well in your world. Take these warnings seriously. Sooner rather than later. Immediately is best.

Life isn’t a trudge it’s a dance, but no one tells you that. Humans often have a struggle and then die attitude. Don’t buy into it. Cynicism and a belief that life’s got it in for you, everything goes wrong, these kind of kill you emotionally long before you head star-side.

Believing that you don’t deserve happiness is both dangerous and wrong. Completely wrong. You wouldn’t deny someone else happiness, treat yourself the same way.

It’s important to want to feel good, then you’ll take steps in that direction and be more likely to kick into touch those things that interfere with that plan.

If you have children it’s your duty to live your best possible life, they’re learning from you at every stage.

• Your thoughts are your life, think good life affirming thoughts.
• You are the power in your life and you can create change. It may take time but if every day is a bit better than the last, that’s fantastic.
• When your problems are within your control, exercise it. Change that job, leave that relationship, deal with that child, save up for a better car. When you can take positive action take it.
• Most of all, you are equal to everyone on this planet. Your colour, gender, race, and creed mean nothing. We are all children of this world, of the universe, and you are as important as any human being walking this earth. Never doubt that. You deserve happiness, good things, achieving your personal feeling of success. You deserve to laugh more than you cry, smile more than you frown, and be surrounded by people who are supportive of who you are.

Choose these things. Most of all choose love and laughter.

Sending love and smiles to help you on your journey.

Deb xx