Tell me what you want, what you really, really want.
The Spice girls – wannabe
Do you know? Has it ever felt important to you that you know? Not just what you want, but what you really, really, want? Or are you living your life via a compromise. ‘This’ll do’ is no way to live. This or better is the right way to live.
Uncouple your limits
Limits imposed by life training and social beliefs are the equivalent of dragging a trailer full of garbage behind you, that has nothing to do with you. Uncouple it, or unhinge your life!
It doesn’t matter what your parents, siblings, teachers, colleagues, friends, and on and on, tell you about life. It has to be lived from the heart in line with what feels right to you, but of course few of us are raised with one key piece of training: how to trust yourself, or even that you should. That you can know best.
Instinct and soul
Some people think that mind, body, spirit, is a load of rubbish, or something on a banner over an event when they’re going to sell you stuff. It’s nothing of the sort.
As with all animals we have instincts, and whereas the animal kingdom are never told they can’t use them, we’re not trained to listen to ourselves.
Back to the unknown you
What is soul? To recap as I know I’ve talked about this before, everything in the universe is comprised of and powered by atoms. You know you have electrical energy as you can build up static electricity, and cause a spark. That can only come from atoms which cannot be destroyed. The human body is organic material. Scientist have discovered that once atoms form a pattern it never breaks. So your pattern is eternal. I can point you at a few names where you can learn more if you wish, just email me.
There are elements of the Big Bang in our DNA, which might suggest that part of us is a few millennia older than our bodies. Does that information contain a blueprint that is us, that started being written at that impossibly long ago time? There’s no evidence to say it doesn’t, so for purposes of trusting your instincts let’s err on the side that this is real.
You might say that your gut instinct, or that knowing that you’re being lied to, that feeling that someone you love is unhappy or in trouble, or the fact that there are more than a few people out there who can tell you when a loved one passed back to spirit, because they felt them leave. Then fell over with shock when they had the time exactly right.
My ex-husband woke up one night to see his grandfather standing at the foot of his bed, he said goodbye to ex, who looked at the clock, then went back to sleep. When his parents told him what had happened he said “Yes, at 5 to midnight”. Bang on correct. He wasn’t into this, but he was also open-minded, and at the time he knew me I/we didn’t know anywhere near as much as I and others have learned and continue to learn now. He’s far from the only one who’s told me the same story.
Can you free your mind?
If, brief though that is, you feel that somehow what you’re hearing feels right to you, then you will be able to make the switch from pure human to full human, accepting your soul/atomic/instinctive aspect as part of the triangle that is you, mind, body, soul, all working as one.
To believe in the entirety of yourself is to live life on all three cylinders, not with one lying dormant. But it’s not woo-woo. You don’t have to become a psychic, medium, healer, crystal seller, or anything else, to become fully yourself and live at full power.
You only need to start listening.
To your feelings
We access the soul through the heart, feelings, and emotions, not the logic of the mind. That wonderful instrument in your head is there to process information for you and tell you what you’re feeling, you then take that knowledge and turn it into right action. Not logical action. Besides, only what’s right for you is the logical action.
As such ask yourself how you feel about something first, get clear on that. When you know that answer then the next steps will be obvious. It’s only when you try to persuade yourself #something that isn’t sitting right with you is a good idea, that the wheels come off, logic takes over, and then life stops making sense.
Consider this: Is it really odd or woo-w00 o listen to yourself? Is it crazy to want to do what feels right to you and avoid what doesn’t? Is it stupid to say that something might be great for you, you may earn a fortune, but you know, you just know, that you’re going to be unhappy if you do whatever it is?
I would have saved myself and my ex a lot of anguish at the end, had I gone with what I knew to be right and cancelled the wedding. My dad gave me the opportunity, I decided to accept mum’s assertation that it was just pre-wedding nerves, even though ex was destroying my mental health and had been for a long time. Bless him, he was so screwed up. I did not trust me because I hadn’t been raised to think I was capable of being trusted. I had to listen to my elders.
Next steps
If this is feeling right to you, keeping a journal may help. Writing down your feelings allows you to identify patterns, check back and see how long something has been going on, and test out your original feelings when you first mentioned that something. You thought it wasn’t right, you had good reason for trying it, but it is wrong for you. Result! You can trust yourself.
Next time you will listen to “what you want, what you really, really want.” What’s more, you don’t have to tell anyone else and land up with a load of differing opinions to sift through, as long as you know, that’s enough.
This is being spirit in the human world. Listening to every aspect of your mind and body, respecting your feelings and emotions even if others think you’re crazy, trusting yourself even if they’d do differently.
Most importantly it’s about learning who you are separate to everything you’ve been taught, even what you may have heard about and taken on board yourself. Taking yourself outside all the knowledge and logic, trusting your inner guidance, letting your mind translate that to you, paying attention, and making your decisions based on what you know inside to be right.
I’m not dissing knowledge and logic and suggesting living a spontaneous life all the time. You have the mind there to help you decide the right action, which sometimes isn’t perfect, but at least you will be aware and ready to take corrective action if necessary. Use knowledge and logic as part of your inner team not the be all and end all. Just make sure all aspects agree.
It’s no more weird and woo-woo than that, and it’s a great first step to opening up a whole new world and way of being, that’s based on nothing but love, respect, and support.
Best love
Deb xx
Deb Hawken - Amorah 