Guide 4 Thinkers

This blog was inspired by an excellent blog on here by Guide4Thinkers (@guidethinkers975).

It engaged my mind on the subjects of what I call the myths we’re raised with. Things made to feel important but that in fact don’t exist, even though it feels very much that they do.

Even though what I’m about to say might sound crazy, let’s look at some of the ideas we are raised with that contribute to our personality, yet may not feel right.

The myths that hold us back

Your life is what your thoughts make it

Marcus Aurelius

There is only one reality – your own mind. You think what’s outside you is reality but it isn’t. Oh it feels real enough but it’s not real.

There are real events, such as falling in love, losing a loved one or pet, an accident, wars. There is a physical reality to these events that is unarguable.

The myths are the modern attitudes seem designed to destroy you from the inside out. Dramatic much! True nevertheless.

From incarcerating you in school at five, teaching you to prepare you for your future when you still have no idea who you are and what you want, through growing up with a family attitude, to the state of our society, it’s not a time in which it’s easy for the mind to thrive.

If it doesn’t, you don’t.

Let’s look closer – be prepared for a long, but I hope extremely useful read.

Don’t forget one vital thing:

The myths will seem like truth, but they’re not,
and they’re designed to hold you back.

The myths as faulty thinking – that can be changed

• Everyone else is right about you: No one knows you as well as you, that’s a fact, because you’re the only person inside you. Your parents will know you, but whether they know you best depends on whether they pay attention to who you are, or listen to their own internal voice that delivers their image of their child. No matter what, you’re a product of two people, with a heritage of many, and once you go to school you begin to develop individually.
• You don’t have the right to define yourself: You do. End of.
• Life is about a set of facts: It isn’t. Much of what we are taught as facts are opinions based on the life experience of the teacher. I’ll give you a good example. Many years ago in Russia, Stalin ordered a census to count the people. It turned out their weren’t as many people as in America. So he had that team shot, and guess what? The next team found millions more people. Especially in this day and age when we can’t trust the mainstream media, and now we’re up against AI so literally nothing we see and hear may be true, or even the person we’re seeing can be fake, it’s going to become more important to define yourself and your beliefs and stay true to those. It’s not as important what other people think is right, Labour/Conservative, as it is how you feel about a subject. Being true to yourself is far more critical in these modern times.
• Emotions -v- thoughts: Thinking isn’t as important as what you feel. Yet above I’ve quoted Marcus Aurelius saying “your life is what your thoughts make it”, and he’s right. However, if you go around thinking what you’re taught to think then you won’t be creating your own life. Don’t let your thoughts create someone else’s life. My training says that it’s vital to understand your own emotions on any subject, then allow the mind to translate them into right action, rather than dismiss them and go to logic. That’s how the right decision goes wrong. It made sense, but it didn’t feel right. If it doesn’t feel right then you won’t give it everything you’ve got because it’s wrong.
• “If you do what you’ve always done you will get what you’ve always got”: I always add “If you think as you’ve always thought, you will do as you’ve always done and you will get what you’ve always got.” If you don’t change your mind you won’t change your patterns. Your mind is not set in concrete, it needs to be fluid and flexible, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Think of yourself as a footballer, you’re heading for the goal with the ball, do you run straight at the defenders or do you weave around them to achieve that shot at goal? You weave, it’s the only right thing to do. Free your mind to be able to listen to your heart and work out the right decisions for you. You may be brilliant at maths but what good is that if you hate it?
• It’s a myth that you can’t control your mind: Exercise can clear the mind. Meditation will help, visualising yourself happy and seeing where you are and what you’re doing will help. Thinking outside the box, in fact take the box and burn it, will help. Going to your heart truth (yes I’m repeating this) will help. Taking quiet time to reflect will help. Winter is a great time to sit down quietly with paper and pens and work out what you want for the coming year. Reflecting on what’s going well, what isn’t, what is but doesn’t feel right, and so on. Often we rush decisions, your life is important, your happiness is important, and you are important. What’s more, and take this to heart: you are the only person who can make you important.
• Finally: It’s your mind in your head and you can do what you like with it. Own it, train it, change it, be happy, succeed.

I will be doing more of the myths, but this is a good start as everything comes from the mind.

Be happy

Deb xx