The Way I Live

What is one thing you would change about yourself?

I woke up this morning stunned by the state of my life. I can’t quite believe got I got to where I am, and frankly I don’t know what to do about it.

Due to my husband’s job We’ve moved several times, I have always made friends. Friends I still have. Friends a long way away.

Had my Frister and her husband not moved up here, I wouldn’t have a single friend. I did meet some lovely people but nothing stuck.

Part of the problem is that I don’t work. I tried to find things to do up here, I took opportunities, I recently joined the U3A (university of the third age), and left nearly as fast. Ignore the word University it’s false advertising. One lady did say that they needed more people of my age, she wasn’t wrong and I’ll be surprised if they get them. There was one fantastic aspect though, the talks.

I loved Toastmasters but our club changed and I just couldn’t make myself in to it anymore. I also thought I made friends there, turned out not so much.

Always a point

In the UK we’ve turned into an isolated society focused on disconnection, television, and the phone in your hand, even at restaurants. We literally leave people alone and isolated and we don’t even care.

Until it happens to us.

I come from a time when newcomers were welcomed and drawn in. I’ve always supported new people when they join anything. welcomed new neighbours.

As my dad used to say though “cast your bread upon the waters and all you’ll get back is wet, soggy, bread.” Yet people complain that they’re lonely and no one cares.

I’ve lost confidence now in making any connections.

Shaking your head and saying it’s shocking how our society leaves people so alone means nothing, step up, step in, be there.

I’m one of the lucky ones

My spiritual beliefs are so strong, God has been getting me through since I was 7 years old, plus I have a guardian angel or four who have reached into my life and helped me so many times it’s not true.

I’m effectively never alone. And they’re nice. They do care They’ll do anything to help. They understand you. A Spirit Guide must have been human so that they get all this. There are guides from other realms including the Angelic, but you’ll have a spirit supporter somewhere nearby who understands what it means to be human.

I feel so sorry for those who don’t have this. Oddly, I’ve often found that those left alone by others are really decent people, kind and caring, but then they know what it’s like to be hurt.

Can’t we stop this?

From the pathetic wars to the pitiful violence on our streets, can’t we stop it?

Can’t we just be kind? Why is it ridiculed to help create happiness?

Or are we really so lost that there has to be another world war just to shock us back into perspective?

I’m disgusted by the UK. Yet there are so many incredible people in this country, if only they were making the news.

Can the kind, inclusive, loving, caring, people please stand up, go and buy a megaphone, and start shouting.

If they say you’re woke just tell them that it’s spelt k…i…n…d!

Ask them who they would want their kids to meet on a dark night in a deserted street, you or someone fashionably angry, selfish, and uncaring?

You with a smile or some un-woke person with a knife?

Trust me on this

Make connections. If you do, don’t move. Build a community and stick with it. Allow each other to be human sometimes, to make mistakes, accept our shared humanity, it has so much to offer.

You’ll never regret it.

Then you’ll never have to say the words “I used to have a life!”

Deb xx