Pure Common Sense!

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What does it mean to be a kid at heart?

A mind that is allowed to age takes the body and life with it. Life becomes a burden. Full of struggles to overcome. Hurdles to jump. Mountains to climb.

You become cynical and go around telling people that they can’t be happy all the time, life’s a bitch and then you die. Believe that and you’re in for a long, miserable, rocky road, where the potholes are filled with sewage, and ten feet deep.

Joy

Flat out fun is the way to stay young. When you get together with friends laugh, joke, giggle. Don’t swap miseries. It’s one thing to get gripes off your chest, but when you’ve done that make sure you end on a high. Moanfests are emotionally destructive and solve nothing.

You know that when you’re happy you move mountains without breaking into a sweat. The more happiness you can pack into your life the easier it will be. Dragging yourself down glues your butt to a chair and you become the mountain you have to move just to get up and make a coffee.

Happiness

These are the people you want to be with. People you have a laugh with, have fun with, who are life affirming. Choose your close circle wisely.

We can’t choose to feel great all the time, there are times when emotions need respect and time to heal, let’s not be unrealistic about this. But when it’s not those times choose happiness.

When it is those times, as soon as you can, start to resurrect good memories, tell the funny stories. When I lose a loved one or pet I start by putting out photos of when they were happy and well. Then I start recalling every crazy thing they did. It doesn’t help much at first, but it certainly aids the healing.

My mum kept a photo of my dad when he was really out of it with dementia. My brother and I got rid of that immediately. The only photos I have out of my parents are their 21st Birthday photos, when they were young, happy, and had the world at their feet. I love them.

So realistically trying to be a bunch of fluffies all the time isn’t realistic, what is, is to use seeking happiness as a mentally and emotionally protective mechanism, and a healing one.

Seek happiness deliberately. Choose happiness. Gently move past and away from anything or anyone that’s causing you unnecessary happiness.

Life is a process and progress

You’re born as a baby, become a child, a teenager, an adult, an older person if you’re very, very, lucky.

You are the sum total of everything you’ve ever been. As such:

There is still a kid inside – let them play!

Being an adult doesn’t mean the fun ends, enjoying life isn’t only for kids.

Deb xx

Published by debdancingstarhawken7

I'm a writer, public speaker, medium, and spiritual thinker. I suffered from acute anxiety from the age of 16 until I was well into my 50s, when I finally found methods that helped me to put it behind me. My struggles led to me exploring life through poetry, then plays, and over a 15 year period I made notes for a self help book which I published in 2015. Details on the book page. Although I am a psychic medium and loved the work, it didn’t feel right for me. It was an utter privilege, but my path was the exploration of what it means to be spirit in the real world and how we can make practical use of those abilities. Nowadays I write, blog, and teach soul-centred living, which is a gentle way of undoing past programming and connecting to your essential self, or soul. If you’re interested email me and we can chat. No pressure, it’s right for you or it’s not and you will know. The groups meet on line so no going out on cold, wet, winter’s evenings. On a personal note, I’m based in the UK. Married with five cats, no children, and four grandchildren, thanks to our inherited daughter, who has gifted us four beautiful little people that bring us such joy. Hope you enjoy the blogs. Deb xx

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