Stopping Worrying

What was the hardest personal goal you’ve set for yourself?

I used to worry in case there was something I should be worrying about and I’d forgotten what it was. I also suffered from undiagnosed acute anxiety.

Whilst I had lovely parents with much to recommend them, through no fault of their own their lives were dogged by a great deal of very real unhappiness, topped off by a maternal family who didn’t deserve to call themselves that in the end. The sad thing is my mother’s family was centred on four rather great women, but jealousy poisoned everything.

There were also some very good reasons. WWII being one, and WWI didn’t help my grandparents’ generation at all. There is a great deal of senseless loss amongst the public associated with war. My dear little four year old uncle, literally the boy who lived for my grandparents, was lost due to lack of penicillin. Many children were, in a simple childhood epidemic. How do you deal with that?

My father’s story is even more tragic. Horribly so, but I can’t go into it as I promised him not to. Suffice it to say that from the cradle my parents and grandparents suffered terrible emotional heartbreak.

This is a familiar story of those generations sadly, and the fall out partly accounted for me and my very brave brother who has struggled too.

Timely reminder

I’m repeating these things to remind those who struggle that sometimes the problem started before you, was no one’s fault, but you can put a stop to the impact. I found it easier to heal if I recognised their pain, because:

Holding onto anger and bitterness is like taking poison and waiting for someone else to die.

Every ounce of a bad past you allow to affect you steals a happy future. I’m NOT saying this is easy, especially when it comes to all forms of abuse, including a lifetime of subtle digs, but just remember:

Living well is the best revenge.

My solutions

Firstly I discovered some of the great philosophers, starting with Krishna Murti. If this isn’t appropriate what is?

Don’t laugh, but I literally didn’t know that philosophers existed. It wasn’t taught at school and my parents probably never encountered the idea.

Secondly I discovered that I could decide to be who I wanted to be. That changing your character is possible. I set out guidelines as to who I wanted to be and paid attention to who I was being, and changed that.

I discovered something important:

Excessive, random worrying is a sign that all is not right for YOU in your world.

It’s that simple. Put your life right and automatically you will feel better.

Then I discovered Joe Dispenza and everything changed. Two of my favourite Joe’s are:

“You can’t create a new future holding onto the emotions of the past.”

“The best way to predict the future is to create it.”

I cannot recommend him, Bruce Lipton, Gregg Braden, and Michael Neill (the Supercoach) highly enough.

If you want to be different – these guys can show you both how, and why. Scientifically speaking.

Give them a try. Joe’s work has helped me a lot. I no longer think in the same way, so that concludes my answer about…oh what was it?. 🤣

Deb