Joy

What positive emotion do you feel most often?

Here’s one of them. I have more.

I actually work on feelings of joy as they’re not only a great vibration, they’re the emotions of attraction.

Besides, too many people work on sad and angry emotions.

It’s so banal to say that we choose what we feel, it’s also the complete truth.

Has to be addressed

Anyone having been abused, or recently bereaved for example, is probably screaming right now, and that’s exactly why I’m mentioning it.

If you’ve been through a terrible time, lost someone or a pet you love, or are struggling in any number of real ways in life, then joy feels like a foreign land you’ve never entered.

We all do the best we can with those things, that’s all we can do. No one can tell you how to ‘get over it’. Time equals recovery. We know that. 💖

I was fortunate that my abuse wasn’t physical, but it was emotional and relentless for over 30 years. I was completely undermined as a person. Left entirely alone while my family supported my abusive ex. Even though they knew what he was. I had to rebuild. So I’m very respectful of the kinds of abuse I don’t understand.

Bereavement normally settles into something manageable that nips at your heels at every celebration, and makes Christmas hard, at least for a while. But if you can practice choosing good feelings, if you can actively seek happiness, it will help.

I personally have personal proof that they are watching you, haven’t gone far, and do still worry about you. I’ve shared enough facts that other people have been stunned I knew because there was no possible way I could, to know that.

Someone told me yesterday that she and her mum are still talking about a reading I did for them 12 years ago, they were so amazed. So help your spirit loved ones and friends by keeping them close to your hearts, part of your present, and being happy. It’s all they want.

When it comes to abuse, happiness is the best revenge. So actively seeking nice experiences, good people, fun and laughter, will at the very least take the edge of. Living well is the best revenge, forgot who said that. Just try. It has to be worth it.

Don’t accept bad people into your life because that’s all you deserve, or they throw a crumb of happiness your way every so often. You of all people should have a well developed bulls*it meter. Use it wisely. Of all people you deserve the best that life has offer, no compromises, in your case no second chances when it comes to abusive behaviour. You have the advantage of recognising that a mile away.

There are people who deserve the best, then there’s you, about a mile above them. Remember that. You and victims of war, and violence.

Sadness in joy

Even though it’s not joyful I always have to say the things above. I just can’t be glib about the sad and horrible things people go through, and I always have the first time reader in mind.

It’s no good trotting out what sounds impossible to people, appearing to have forgotten, or not to care that they exist. Sliding blessedly past their very real horror. I can’t do that.

So that’s why you get these bits.

So joy

Just try for it. Give it a go. Believe in it. Work out what it means to you. Go for it.

Might help, certainly can’t hurt.

Fabulous Friday

Deb xx