One of the biggest questions you will ever have to answer if you embrace this way of thinking, and one with so many individual answers you will definitely be wrong on a regular basis in someone’s eyes, is:
What is spirituality?
What does it mean to be spiritual in a human world? How do you manage it when people will keep annoying you? How are you supposed to exude saintliness when you can’t pay the bills, the roof is falling in, and your teenager won’t listen to you. How are you supposed to be The Eternal Om at work?
You’re not, forget all that.
Truly personal
Firstly, spirituality is completely personal. You may prefer to follow a religion, or to walk your own path, as I do. This does not mean that I don’t believe in God (English spelling), I do. I have felt supported by that energy since I was 7 years old, I walked away from it for years, and finding my way back was the best thing I ever did.
At 7-14 I attended a church. Now I don’t. But Source Energy as I now call it is everywhere, available to everyone, every animal, everything. It’s fully inclusive and didn’t make any of our rules. The Christian message ‘God is Love’, to me sums up exactly what it is. Unconditional love. That means no disrespect to other religions, simply that love is what I feel from it and that makes sense to me.
I wasn’t born pro or anti anything. I have standards, but they’re different. They’re universal. ‘Thou shalt not kill’ is another of those standards I’ve adopted as making perfect sense to me. As a person my guide-word for my life is kindness. To others, animals, the planet, and to myself.
Your journey should be entirely personal to you, comprised of things that make sense to you. Obviously a spiritual journey suggests that you’re trying to be a decent person, a positive influence, and force for good. That’s kind of the job description. Apart from that move forward collecting ideas and knowledge, listening to your own soul, and being authentic.
If something doesn’t make sense, park it, and see what happens later. If it does, test it out, work with it, tweak it, and make it fit you.
What isn’t spiritual?
Is actually the harder question to answer. There are some basics of living a spiritual life that make sense to me:
- Self-honesty, even before honesty to others.
I’m afraid I’ve seen too many people who follow a spiritual path seemingly able to make hurtful behaviour reasonable and acceptable. Taking delight in telling others that they’re not spiritual, which is the highest level of insult. Who is anyone else to judge? We have Source and our own soul for that. - Being the best human you can.
You came here to be human. That’s the point of the party. Trying to be an ocean of serenity when you’re not serene actually holds back your development. To be spirit in the spirit world is to be soul in a place of love. It is, as you know, nothing like that on Earth. An acceptance of your humanity is key. Recognising mistakes and correcting them is spiritual. Trying to be perfect is not. Listen, learn, test, tweak. - Defining yourself.
From your parents, siblings, family, through your teachers, friends, bosses, colleagues, and loves, everyone has an input into who and what you are. You can become what you would see in a broken mirror, fractured and misaligned. To me, a fantastic start is to put yourself under the microscope and ask yourself a vital question – do I believe this, that, and the other? Followed by am I the person I want to be. Don’t judge, observe and tweak. You’re already a beautiful soul, you only have to delete the faulty programming. You get to choose what that is.
So what isn’t spiritual? This is what experience has taught me so far:
- It’s not going to church.
I’m sorry but I feel this strongly. If you go to church and you are what you’re hearing, that can be very spiritual. But spirituality is no more guaranteed within a church than it is anywhere else. Nor is it impossible within a religion, as some disbelievers will tell you. - It’s not being a psychic medium.
Many people, myself included, didn’t know there was another way to express spirituality in their life except to join the spiritual field. I discovered I was psychic, then found out that I was a medium. I went for training which I will never regret, and then I wandered innocently out into the world to do my work. It was not great. However, had I not done this I would never have discovered the truth, those aspects are the working arm of spirituality. I regard them highly. Done well they are amazingly healing and empowering. But people who would never want to do any of that can land up feeling that they have no home. You have, it’s in the centre of your chest. - Saying one thing and being another.
However you express your spirituality this, to me, is the bottom line. Say it, mean it, do it, be it. That’s another of my phrases that I live by. I do my utmost to be authentic and real. I had a wonderful compliment the other day. An old friend told me I’d make a lousy politician, I was of course very upset, until he said it was because I didn’t have a devious bone in my body. I wasn’t brought up this way, I was naturally always very honest as a child, then affected by my family situation. When I woke up to what we’d become, myself included, I felt awful. I set myself on a retraining programme where I defined myself and how I would be. I’m still tweaking, but I’m happier that I’m closer to my soul-self.
Enough
I’m writing these blogs to express what may be a different way to think for many people. I’m not writing to tell you how to be. I hope I’ve shared enough to generate ideas for those who need them. But question everything I write. Turn it round in your mind. Make it fit you.
In my groups you are enough. You’re late, you’re late. I smile. You forget to turn up. I smile. You have a wobble, I wait for Amos to tell me when, then I come and find you. You don’t have to not swear, not cry, not feel angry, not be human. What you are is good enough. What you might become is exciting!
As I said, say it, mean it, do it, be it. So many people told me I was wrong I became that fractured mirror. I empower the exact opposite.
There is so much more to this subject, but it has to be a very personal journey, because it’s your personal soul journey driven by soul intention. That’s what your own soul, eternally connected to Source, is for. One with all things, it’s your internal guide and teacher. It loves you.
A Spirit Guide or Guardian Angel is simply your literal best friend forever who takes care of you from conception to return home. Helping you to hear your soul when you can’t. Sharing wisdom that you’ve forgotten that always makes so much internal sense when you hear it.
God gave us free will, no Guide or Guardian can take it away, but they can ask the right questions or make the suggestions that will get you to your own place in your own way.
The most important thing though on this journey is your own soul, and that you reacquaint yourself with it. It will teach you well. One thing you can guarantee from this journey is:
Your soul will only want your highest good. It will only tell you good things.
It only wants you to be the best version of yourself.
You will never hear a bad word from your soul, or a Guide/Guardian if you have one.
You will only ever receive positive, loving advice and guidance.
If it’s not that kind of voice then you’re not listening to the right voice, just your negative chatterbox or past programming.
Find your true voice.
Deb xx
Deb Hawken - Amorah 