I’m Sorry, What?

What’s your definition of romantic?

I don’t think I’ve ever had a romantic moment in my life if we’re talking relationships. Both my proposals were…not romantic. My weddings were awful. I’ve never done anything remotely romantic like…well anything.

Doesn’t that sound sad. Yet it’s not.

So don’t feel sorry for me yet, or at all.

Turn it round

I was born lonely and have always felt that way. Those are my feelings. My mother once said to me that she thought she’d been sad since 1963 when her father, my grandfather died. The way the family reacted certainly made that the case.

Why pull together when you can rip yourselves apart over and over again? My generation lost a great deal.

To me a sense of loneliness galloped in the family, we were all quite isolated people. No real connection.

But I’m lucky because I have another way of seeing it.

It’s about beliefs

Unlike the others I have a strong core belief. I came here (personally) knowing that there is an amazing energy out there. The English speakers call it God. Its name is pure overwhelming love. Love for short.

Through my life I’ve grown closer to it, and I’ve received help and support in spades that is simply the most powerful thing I’ve ever known. Simply, because there is no complication.

If it makes you happy, do it. If it doesn’t, don’t. If you don’t know, find out, then apply the happiness rule.

So simple, yet people laugh at it. “It’s not that simple” they tell you. Actually, it is.

I worked for two years in a career I had hated and loved every second of it. The people were the nicest I’d ever met, and the work was a joy. My boss was the most respectful person I’ve ever worked for.

I’m going to say something I rarely say: I’m right about this, trust me not the negative nellys.

If it makes you unhappy why would you keep doing it?

Just reflect on that

The outcome

Firstly I believe that I came here to be as I am for a reason. So I accept who I am.

I rarely ever feel lonely now because as a soul still connected to the entire universe, I’m always part of something not just bigger, but kinder. More loving. Very skilled in problem solving and healing, especially the emotions.

Always think of healing as emotional.

Poor emotions lead to hurt, stress, anger, anxiety, depression. They cause chemical changes that upset the body. Protecting the body with the much laughed at old chestnut of happiness is a great help to it.

Walking this path alone has changed me for the better. Yet I’m happily married and I have family and excellent friends so how can I say that I’ve been lonely?

Because it’s the sense of being alone that we humans have that we carry inside that closes us off to the beauty of life.

That comes from being in a world of separation when we originate from a world of connection. You can find that connection here, from that world. You’re still part of it. You can be here and find it.

Obviously I can help if you want to know more. 💖 Feel free to reach out.

Romance

Isn’t just within a partnership.

The moon affects me every time I see it, it’s so truly romantic. It’s a huge mirror that can light up a night with just a reflection. Every time I see it is as if for the first time.

I’m the same with stars, on the odd occasion we see one in my area of the UK. Sometimes I can see Orion’s Belt, or Jupiter, and I’m transfixed.

Romance is in nature. In birds, butterflies, bees, rainbows. You’re seeing light when you see a rainbow. The whole world looks like that.

In The Book of Revelations a prophet is allowed to see God, all he saw was a shimmering rainbow.

Life is full of romance, it’s just that sometimes humans aren’t good at connecting, or connect to the wrong people. Or prize romance above real love, which I have.

When you feel lonely don’t draw in, look at the world and you’ll find a million things to take your breath away.

Things that won’t argue back! 🤣💖😍

Wonderful Wednesday

Deb xx

P.S. Woo Hoo! I’ve found a romantic memory. 16 years old. Beach in Sussex. Late evening, beautifully warm night. Waves gently touching the shore. Moonlight. Second boyfriend. I’m saying no more! 🤣

Never quite trust your memory, even when you’re down. Especially then. 🤣💖🤣