The World is Your Mirror

Posted bydebdancingstarhawken7Posted inLife success, Mental health, Power Thinking, Simple Life HacksTags:, , , , ,

People respond to what they see and hear. If you put out that you feel unworthy, they will reflect that feeling right back at you.

If you constantly put yourself down in the way you talk about yourself, people will believe what you say. If you walk into a room looking like you have no right to be there and are expecting to be shunned, people will feel uncomfortable with you and avoid you.

The beauty of this problem is that 3 simple steps will make a huge difference:

  1. Speak about yourself respectfully at all times. Imagine you’re your best friend and speak about yourself that way.
  2. Dress in a way that’s comfortable for you, in clothes that you like, and make sure you make an effort with your hair. Walk in wrinkled from head to foot because you’ve told yourself that you look a mess, and people will see the mess you’re presenting to them, and agree with you! Hair like a bird’s nest, followed by ‘oh my hair is such a mess I couldn’t do a thing with it’, will convince people your hair is a mess. It’s what they will be seeing. Find a good hairdresser, if you hate doing your hair they can recommend a low maintenance style, and there are plenty of places on line you can look at clothes to work out what represents you.
  3. Don’t put up with bad treatment. Even if your lack of confidence may be causing some of your own issues, a good and kind person will help you in a way that involves no criticism, is not harsh, and leaves you feeling so important because that person wanted to spend time helping you. They thought you were worth it. Because you are. So, if people are unkind move away from them. Who knows, you may find a lack of unkind people who enjoy making fun of, or putting others down, results in you feeling a great deal better about yourself.

Ultimately we choose how we present ourselves. I find that dressing well when I’m feeling low immediately helps. Doing my hair so that I feel comfortable helps too. I don’t dress or do hair or make up, for anyone else. I do it for me.

A little bit of fake it ’til you make it does no harm. Make it a habit and you’ll believe that what you’re seeing in the mirror is true, because it will be.

Creating positive change should be kept as simple and easy as possible, that way the results will appear much faster.

Deb xx

Published by debdancingstarhawken7

I'm a writer, public speaker, medium, and spiritual thinker. I suffered from acute anxiety from the age of 16 until I was well into my 50s, when I finally found methods that helped me to put it behind me. My struggles led to me exploring life through poetry, then plays, and over a 15 year period I made notes for a self help book which I published in 2015. Details on the book page. Although I am a psychic medium and loved the work, it didn’t feel right for me. It was an utter privilege, but my path was the exploration of what it means to be spirit in the real world and how we can make practical use of those abilities. Nowadays I write, blog, and teach soul-centred living, which is a gentle way of undoing past programming and connecting to your essential self, or soul. If you’re interested email me and we can chat. No pressure, it’s right for you or it’s not and you will know. The groups meet on line so no going out on cold, wet, winter’s evenings. On a personal note, I’m based in the UK. Married with five cats, no children, and four grandchildren, thanks to our inherited daughter, who has gifted us four beautiful little people that bring us such joy. Hope you enjoy the blogs. Deb xx

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