I have never in my life been a conspiracy theorist. It isn’t that I don’t believe in conspiracies, I do, but I don’t have the knowledge to have a theory, and I prefer facts anyway. Theories are often driven by beliefs, and they don’t become a true truth because we believe them. They only become truth if you can find sufficient evidence to prove that truth.
As such it came as a bit of a shock today when reading my latest novel, an Orphan X book by Gregg Hurwitz (highly recommended), that I found myself considering how much we are being controlled, not only that, how.
Social media
It slammed forcefully into my mind, in a way that I know it’s a message from spirit, that social media is a form of control. Now those of you already at this point can enjoy laughing at my naïve expense, but in truth it’s not naïveté, it’s just that I hadn’t looked at it in quite the way it was presented to me.
Energy for life
We all know that feeling angry, upset, frustrated, low, depressed, anxious, drains the energy. What it drains is our life force energy. Our joy, our enthusiasm, our passion for life.
I’d often questioned why I didn’t have the creative muse for my writing anymore. It became like a dead area in my life. An empty space where passion, excitement, and enthusiasm, used to be. A few months ago I decided to limit my social media presence to what I could offer, rather than chatting and making connections.
Please, if you’re connected to me, don’t feel that you don’t matter, you do very much. However, I’ve been connected to around 2000 people for over a decade, yet I can’t call anyone up and say ‘fancy a coffee and cake out?’ unless they’re people actually present in my life. So that’s about 5 people. As such I had 2000 ‘friends’ and was lonely. If loneliness doesn’t drain your joy in life, nothing will.
I still enjoyed reading their posts, keeping up with how they are, following their work, but it wasn’t making my life a healthier place to live. Happier, full of laughter with friends, fun times. That’s important.
Living virtually is not living.
Unhealthy mental health
When you come across nasty posts, snide comments, spiteful people, it creates a great deal of stress within. Of course you know that, we all do, but that fact is deeper than I’ve considered.
If we add the draining of life force energy, to the mental and emotional effect of the trolls, what we land up with is an aspect of life that is wearing us down, not empowering us. What is the easiest way to control people, to make them compliant? What do gas lighters do? They convince you you’re worthless, stupid, wrong. Social media is full of this.
We’re encouraged to join, to make friends, connect, and yet that isn’t real unless you go out of your way to make a friend of your friends. You don’t truly know each other. If you’ve ever fallen out suddenly with a social media friend, it wasn’t just that words are allegedly hard to write, it’s that they didn’t know you, couldn’t add your character to the meaning.
A huge number of people in this world are hooked on social media, I was one of them, I really felt that I was connecting. When I realised I wasn’t, in truth I’m an acquired taste not the kind of flame that moths happily fly straight into, I left Twitter/X, I left Threads (that quickly got too nasty), I kept Facebook as I have a page where I try to help people, and I find I’m chatting a bit more on my own profile again because I have more energy. I kept Instagram as I like pictures and chat with a friend on there. What I don’t do is engage anymore, if it’s nasty I’m gone.
Suddenly I’m writing again. My energy is clearer.
The interesting question
Is this a conspiracy theory? Is this control by Zuckerberg, Musk, and co? Or is this actually us? I think it’s us.
Many people don’t do social media. Those of us who choose to use it for whatever reason, have choices as to how we use it. How much time we allow it to take up. Just like walking into a room with people and realising that they’re all in a bad mood, so walking back out before you join the doom and gloom continuum, we make the choice to keep reading these posts, arguing the points, and not choosing our friends wisely.
I have many life affirming friends on Facebook, people I truly value and admire, people I would like to meet in person and make a real part of my life. In stepping back I’ve been able to come to terms with the fact that lovely as they are, we won’t meet up. If we were real friends we would message each other and say ‘haven’t seen your name pop up lately, how are you?’ We don’t, we includes me of course. No duck-shoving/blame-pushing here.
In order to maintain control of your own feelings and emotions it’s important to place them wisely. To be in vibrant and positive company, to be truly connected to people that you like. There’s nothing like sitting in a garden on a warm summer’s evening with lovely people, laughing harder the more lemonade (okay wine/beer) you drink. Nothing like it at all. That companionship is so important.
Ultimately it doesn’t matter who tries to control us, what matters is that we’re aware of it and take that control back.
So is there a conspiracy?
I’m going to contradict myself and say that yes there is. Here’s why. Social media was started as a good thing, a way to connect with people far away. Tony’s family in New Zealand and Australia, people I trained with as a medium, including one in Canada. But it’s morphed, it’s become an actual business, a business that controls what you can and can’t say.
People are restricted yet not told why. Voices are silenced. More than that, the people who run these organisations are seeing a potential to control the way the public think, to put out specific information, to tempt us with purchases, ideas, and so much fake information it’s not true. I saw an advert for a Face Yoga app the other day, I’m trained in Face Yoga and didn’t recognise half the so called moves.
They’re now controlling the flow of information, not restricting accounts that actively seek to divide us into separate camps, but restricting ordinary people for their opinions. There may not be a deliberate conspiracy but it is underlying social media, and we need to be aware of it. People are being literally destroyed on there.
Take control back, use your energy in a way that makes you feel good and avoid what doesn’t. If you need real friends then don’t seek virtual ones. Try and turn them into real connections, or walk away. Don’t waste your life watching these pointless reels. Don’t waste your time arguing with people who have a right to their opinion no matter what. Your life is precious, take back control.
No matter what ‘they’ do or want, it’s only us who can give our power away. Yes and no is always in your hands. All the time we’re engaged on social media we’re not out there living.
Deb xx
Deb Hawken - Amorah 