This second blog in the not woo-woo series is about how holding a physical object can communicate information via your sixth sense. This can widen out to picking up from the air itself, but psychometry itself is information through touch.
The unexpected story of the stones
I didn’t know that I was an empath for years. An empath picks up on others and environments, and can do so over a distance of many miles, both by sensing and by touch.
I went into a sudden state of absolute exhaustion a few years ago, I described it to Tony as only having energy up to my knees. Yet I knew that I was fine. The next day I decided to talk a walk through Bath, what I now call ‘following my feet’, I start walking and let them lead me. I found myself standing outside a shop with pretty crystals in the window. I wasn’t into crystals, hadn’t really heard of them as a ‘thing’. Yet I knew that I had to go into that shop.
What happened next floored me. The lady behind the counter looked at me and said “Who’s draining your energy? I have to say relative, female, cousin.” I couldn’t believe it but that very thought had gone through my head just before I went out to lunch. The women in my family always had a strong connection that none of us understood.
She told me to come across to a large sloping box with dividers creating square holders, in which there were lots and lots of different coloured crystals. She said they were called tumble stones, she asked me to tell her which ones took my attention. I said it was the blue ones.
She took all of them out of the holder and handed me them one at a time to tell her how I felt about them. She said that even though they were identical there would still be one that felt right to me. Frankly I was baffled, I thought you just picked something up and bought it. However, as she’d already been stunningly correct I decided to respect her knowledge and go with it.
I can’t remember now how many stones it was but one just felt different, comfortable, like it was already mine. She said I should still go through the rest, and a second one felt the same. I decided that I would have both.
I carried those stones in my hand all the way back to work, feeling better at every step, bear in mind here I had no clue about crystals or crystal healing. I put them in my trouser pockets for the rest of the day, sat and held them whilst watching TV that evening. At 10 pm (as the news came on) I put them up on the mantlepiece, and I’ve rarely held them since. As you can see I still have them. I was completely restored to normal and now have quite a relationship with my personal crystals.
Psychometry and touch
Psychometry is when you get a strong reaction from touching or holding something. Either you love it, you’re neutral, or you feel like the skin on your hands is trying to escape up your arms.
The crystals were giving me energy through touch. You can also pick up energy from objects. If you find it difficult to touch old things such as antiques, if you go in to a room and wish you could just change chairs without looking crazy, if someone gives you a present and you know immediately that you will never touch that thing again, you may have this ability.
Many years before I knew any of this I held a broach once belonging to my ex’s grandmother and described her to him accurately. He gave me the broach he was so surprised. So was I. Which brings me to what you can learn by using the sixth sense combined with touch.
It’s useful
I use it on every car we buy, if it makes me smile I buy it, if it doesn’t I don’t. I use it on electrical equipment. I just get a sense with anything I buy if it’s ‘right’. I used to buy clothes I loved, put them on, take them off, and never wear them. I felt so stupid but I just could not wear them. As this knowledge developed I learned to run my hands over every item my size to find the ‘good one’. If you stand and watch women in shops, many of them unconsciously shop ‘by hand’. They will walk round the store gently touching an item and moving on. Some men may do it to but to be honest I don’t spend a lot of time in the men’s departments.
How can two identical size 12’s (UK) be different? They aren’t, they’re exactly the same, it just depends on the mood of the people who have touched them during their journey from manufacture, through packing, delivery, unpacking, placing them in the shop, and being touched by lots of people. If one person has a strongly upset energy, a psychic empath will feel it.
Touch no evil
You may note I didn’t say negative energy. Even the emotion of anger is not negative it’s just an emotion that most humans have at one time or another. True evil is actually very rare, but the vast majority of people will sense it immediately. Never ignore that feeling.
This is important as shaking hands with someone can throw you for a loop (unsettle you completely). This is extremely difficult when it’s your boss, but it’s imperative that you take notice of it, especially in romantic relationships. An awkward interview is a no.
If you meet someone who on the face of it transcends the right to be gorgeous, seems super nice, genuinely kind, and your radar is twanging off the scales, something is not right. It may not be that this is a bad person, it may simply be that this is not the right person, the right boss, for you.
If you’re exploring this for the first time, or recently got started, don’t fall for those who declare negative energy and evil at every turn. It’s way outside the left field of dramatic. I’ve had people declare that a certain person has a very negative energy and I should avoid them, so I approach them, and often they’re just hurting.
I don’t care how nice the house is…
This is the most common touchy-feely one of all. However, often you don’t need to actually touch a house to feel that you will never live there. The vibrations of those who live there, or maybe the neighbours, or even the neighbourhood, can be extremely strong. Don’t ever force yourself to buy a house because it looks good, most importantly it has to feel good.
As we pull up Tony always asks me if the garden will be too small or the fridge/freezer won’t fit in the kitchen. That’s how we don’t say ‘the energy in your house doesn’t suit us’. After all, it can just be that energy clash rather than anything more serious.
The author James Redfield wrote in his Celestine series of books that he was in a group of people and one person couldn’t bear him and he didn’t know why. The leader of their group took them both into meditation and they both independently saw that in a past life the man who disliked him had fallen in battle, and as the person he was then James had run away and left him to it. They both agreed afterwards that understanding that took away all the bad feelings. A couple of days later the group was attacked, the man was injured, and James made absolutely sure to go back for him and pick him up.
I just tell you this to stress again that you don’t want to get into fear of the negative as it can truly lead you down the wrong path. Working in that way can impact your accuracy in working out exactly what is going on.
Tactics
Note if touching objects has a strange effect on you, be careful with purchases. Note if you don’t like old houses or museums. Try asking friends to bring objects to you and tell you nothing about them, great if they’re family heirlooms and nothing to do with the friend, see how accurately you pick up on them.
Always trust yourself. No matter what anyone thinks, if you get in a car and don’t like it don’t buy it. If you don’t want to appear weird claim that you couldn’t find a comfortable driving position, or see over the bonnet to park it. Same with houses as above.
If a person strikes you uncomfortably on meeting, don’t judge them, try to sense their energy and see what it might be. If the overall feeling is good take careful steps forward but don’t forget that first reaction.
Even with a pet. We get frustrated looks from cat rescue centres when we say we’re waiting for the animal to react to us, to see if it comes to us. They think we’re the kind of people who ‘have to be loved’ One ‘lady ‘volunteer helper’ actually said that sort of thing annoyed her. I put her straight surprisingly calmly. I said that we were looking for the animal to demonstrate comfort with us, feeling safe to approach, wanting to approach. As far as we’re concerned they’re equal living beings and have a right to demonstrate a preference. We were treating them with respect.
We’ve had 12 happy cats so far. Some took more time to settle than others due to difficult pasts, but they all worked out beautifully and we feel blessed. The connection was right and the rest was about love.
A touch useful?
Again I hope that this article has been useful, and maybe shone some light on something you don’t understand about yourself or someone else. If you are at odds with a person just touching their desk, the top of their screen, their shoulder if appropriate, and letting yourself feel can work wonders.
These senses go past the mind, logic, and judgement. This one particularly can stop you making any number of mistakes in life from purchasing to marrying, and everything in between. You will not only become a good judge of character, you will become a judge who doesn’t automatically see the worst. Who is willing to go the extra step (that no one knows has happened) to understand a little of how that person is feeling.
You’ll be the person who says ‘what’s wrong?’ rather than ‘why are you such a miserable so and so?’ You’ll even be able to ‘feel’ your children and sense what they need to talk about, ask the right questions. If you don’t believe me you do know never to argue with a mother who says her child is unwell don’t you? Those women know.
You’ll be the person who steps away long before they ruin their life, or that of someone else.
I speak from experience, knowing what I know now I would have listened to myself and never married my first husband. But I was 21 in the days when that was still practically in the cradle, intuition and empathy had only been heard of in very rare circles, and your parents were right. when mum said pre-wedding nerves it made sense so I listened. It was way more than that and I turned out to be right.
Everyone thinks what we call gut instinct is fight and flight, it’s far more than that. It’s part of total living, firing on all cylinders, and giving yourself every chance to be happy. Nowt wrong with that, as a Yorkshire person would say.
To your happiness
Deb xx
Deb Hawken - Amorah 