Do you find yourself chasing happiness whilst looking back into the past and remembering all the bad things that have happened to you?
You want to be a successful (insert whatever) but your past has taught you that you can’t be successful. Chasing success only resulted in failure. Exactly as your parents, school teachers, toxic friends, bosses, said it would.
This is just one of the ways we look back into the past whilst approaching the future and trying to create a better life, yet thinking about all the old stuff that held us back.
Another way is to stop trusting men/women (however the combination works for you) because they’ve always hurt you before. You got hurt because the relationship was wrong, yet it’s only too easy to join the ‘I hate (insert gender) brigade.
You can receive money, but your past belief that you’re not good with money seems to make it disappear. This is because subconsciously you’re getting rid of the money to prove a belief about yourself.
Your parents amounted to nothing, so you won’t either.
Enough examples…moving on…
The problems, issues, and training of the past are no place to create a great future. So if you understand this thinking sit back and reflect:
- Is your past controlling your present and therefore compromising your future?
- Are your beliefs about yourself and your capabilities accurate?
- Do you plan well? Do you test each step and ask yourself if you really want whatever it is? Or if you want it but not quite the way it’s working out? Most things go wrong for a reason and it’s not always your fault.
- Are you living the same life as your family automatically, without thinking whether it’s the right life for you? It’s called ancestral programming and ancestral lines. A faulty belief that the way our predecessors were has to be the way we are. ‘It runs in the family’ is only good if we’re talking sense of humour, love of travel, successful parenting, and so on. If something not good runs in your family, run in the other direction as hard as you can.
- If you know you’re not good at managing money, take advice, get help, there are people to help. The Money Saving Expert in the UK – Martin Lewis – is a fantastic resource for helping you to manage your finances wisely. I’m sure other countries will have the same.
- In other words, if you’re not good at something even though you’ve tried, accept that it’s not for you. If you’re not good at your career, it’s not your career.
Finally, we thrive where we’re right, doing things that we love, with people who support us. The two biggest mistakes most of us make are connected:
Being the wrong person in the wrong relationship, wrong career, wrong company, wrong role, wrong hobby, wrong friendships. Especially if we are a person who sticks with things and doesn’t quit, once we make a commitment we stick to it. Which is admirable and not admirable at the same time.
The moral of the story is…
- Don’t look backwards.
- Don’t let the past define you.
- Don’t let others define you.
- Focus on the now.
- Know when to quit.
- Create a great future.
Deb xx
Deb Hawken - Amorah 