How has a failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success?
I can see that some things weren’t meant to work out, that’s a given.
At the time it felt like a disaster, but I’ve learned a lot about the person I am and can see that a lot of what I was chasing in life wouldn’t have suited me. So the failures are okay-ish.
I was always advised by Spirit to work alone, always ignored them because I’m a real team player and love collaborative work, it always went wrong. I work alone now and it’s going better than ever.
I’m still not a success as such, but other things are far more important. Was I ever the right person to be as wildly famous as I was predicted to be? I love being quiet at home with my cats, go figure.
No regrets just wishes
I wish I’d had more faith in myself and less in others, not believed what they said about me and allowed myself to be undermined. As I proved yesterday I don’t do that anymore.
Still moving forward
Ultimately I’m still able to help people, would I like that to be thousands or millions? Part of me says no, oddly.
Maybe not oddly though.
I work very personally, individually. I don’t have a programme because the outcomes of my work are not classical. They’re internal and unique to each individual. I admire the heck out of people who put these brilliant programmes together and reach thousands, but my mind doesn’t work that way.
Inspiration is personal
I’m inspirational, I don’t know what I’m going to say until I say it. It helps people because I often act as confirmation of their thinking, which I know nothing about. It reinforces their self confidence.
A funny example last week. My oldest friend and I were chatting via text and she was saying that she was still working.
I do a Friday game on my Facebook page each week. I post a question and people answer it, then I intuit what it means to them. I told my friend that she was thinking about making a big change and the time was right. Not in so many, or so few, words. She had decided to finally retire. Yet my information from two days previously was that she was still working, no mention of retirement.
That’s what I love. It’s personal. Audiences of hundreds can be inspired, of course they can, I love that work, but I love connecting deeply with individuals more.
My groups are small, everyone gets time to share and discuss, I’m deeply connected to them all, and it’s satisfying. I have time for them.
Ultimately
You can learn from failure and it’s wise to do so if you encounter it, but I don’t enjoy focusing on the drab side of life. Learn, move on, be optimistic, believe only in the best.
In our society we focus too much on the negative side of what if.
What if those fears are untrue? What if happiness, success, brilliant health, and a positive golden age are entirely possible?
That’s my focus. Good wishes.
Wishes are forward thinking
A regret leaves you stuck in the past, a wish is something you can bring forward with you. So yes I wish some things had worked out better, but you never need to let go of a wish.
If you don’t weigh your wishes down with regrets, the energy to create them is still there. The wishes are still a potential. Potential can always be explored and brought into fruition.
So I wish good wishes… what good wishes are you sending forward?
Deb xx
Deb Hawken - Amorah 