Family!

You’re writing your autobiography. What’s your opening sentence?

“I would like to have been born into a stable family who knew how to be happy.”

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Negativity wasn’t a word when I was young, but my family epitomised it on any number of levels.

The only birth family I have now is my brother and his family, sadly my cousin was unable to recover from her background.

My brother and I have chosen to be different. To do family with love and respect, to eradicate the need for any of us to be perfect. It’s working.

It’s nice to know that we could do this. But sad that our entire adult lives have been an emotional battle against our upbringing. We haven’t been able to celebrate our childhoods, we’ve had to fight to overcome them.

What brought us back together was looking through family photos after our mother died. We didn’t get on? So why were we always together? Talking. Playing. I’m 7 years older but there I was, listening, running after balls for him, rock pooling with him. We clearly liked each other a great deal.

Childish scraps yes, but when I was 16 he had a bad asthma attack and I refused to go to bed, I just said I was staying up with him and no one was moving me. I’m glad I did, it was the first time I understood what he had.

He was saying please every time he tried to breathe. That’s seared into my memory alongside my helplessness.

He was the one who comforted me after my first boyfriend and I were broken up by his parents.

A spiritual plan?

The spiritual theory is that we come in with our life lessons all set up. Both my Guides Eduoard and Amos say no.

Eduoard actually said that there was no need at all to learn the hard way. All lessons could be learned through happiness.

Amos added that although we make plans in spirit as to who will be our parents, humans are changed by living this life. Vulnerable children are programmed by the world around them and it shapes you. You can benefit your life and your soul if you overcome these things, but it’s not necessary to experience them.

He’s just said that there is no benefit to a person to be raped, assaulted, murdered, betrayed. That’s a human myth. Yes, how you overcome it helps you but it’s not a necessity.

I once asked him about past lives and he agreed what was the point of coming here to be punished? Spirit and the soul are quite capable of dealing with it.

I asked if you would come back to do good, he said that would be to make everyone who does good into a previous terrible sinner.

He said they don’t work from any negative vibration, only love. The damage to be overcome happens here.

So the message is:

You didn’t come here with the intention to be unhappy. You’re not suffering due to past lives or sins. You don’t deserve what happens to you. You don’t deserve to be attacked, insulted, unhappy, or unwell.

You deserve the best of everything and only believing that will get you it.

A better opening sentence?

“I came into a close, loving, joyous, caring family, who knew how to make the most of life and taught me to do the same.”

If you’re about to have a baby – think about writing your own sentence in that vein for your baby and doing your utmost to deliver that for them. Protect them from anyone and anything that compromises it unnecessarily.

Deb xx