20/20 Foresight

My mentor had a lovely saying that I certainly hadn’t heard before:

20/20 hindsight would only be useful beforehand.

It tickled me pink, but it’s also so true.

The past is of minimal help

Whilst we can learn the lessons of the past, continually looking back doesn’t create a great future. Only using those lessons in the present does.

Try to leave the past where it is, along with the regrets. Make peace with them, move on.

Accurate foresight

Can only be achieved by living your truth, by being honest with yourself. Pretence will only create the wrong future. If you want to try and foresee the future you hope for, then it’s important to be honest about what you want, and also ensure that those desires are what you genuinely want, and not programmed in by society.

For example, are you dreaming of a great job, fast cars, lots of money? Yet you’re at your happiest at home, cuddled up on the sofa watching a film, reading a book, or with a pet on your lap – unless it’s a Rottweiler or baby elephant, in which case somewhere nearby!

In other words, do you cherish money or the simple things that make you happy? There’s no right answer, money never does evil, only evil people do evil with money. It’s also hugely practical to want money in a world that runs on money. Just get your perspective right.

How many people work for 30/40 years to pay off the mortgage? Is that living to your way of thinking.

Be crystal clear; only clarity brings in the right future that’s true to your heart and who you are.

Stepping outside ‘the norm’

Don’t want to tell others your crazy dream in case they laugh?

You don’t have to tell anyone else your dreams, which gives you the freedom to dream.

Worrying what other people will think is a terrific blocking tool. As long as what you want doesn’t include violence or other crimes it’s okay to have dreams. To want to reach for the stars. To plan a great future.

If others can’t do what you can it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. If others don’t have what you have, it isn’t your fault.

Don’t live your life based on the choices of others.

Tips

• Read about the Law of Attraction, My particular favourite is the book of the same name by Esther and Jerry Hicks.
• Do a vision board. This normally includes photographs of the lifestyle you want. Type of house, type of lifestyle, type of job, holidays, people in the peak of health, joyful people. That sort of thing. You can find a lot about it on line, but I recommend Mike Dooley for the boards. Just head it ‘this or better’. No limits! When you find yourself looking at a picture of a mansion worrying about vacuuming it, or having strangers cleaning your home, the clue is you don’t want a big house! That’s why using images helps. You can use words if you prefer words.
• Don’t feel pressured by anyone. Take everything one step at a time, from:
• Daydreaming about yourself being happy. Don’t direct the daydream. See where you are and what you’re doing. If you let your imagination run free then you’ll get to your heart truth.
• Getting those images down on that vision board.
• Thinking about the steps you need to take to get to where you need to be. Yes, the law of attraction requires you do something. In the words of Mike Dooley “visualise, show up, do something.”
• Taking one step at a time towards those dreams.

Finally

Accurate foresight comes from a mind that is set free to roam the possibilities and ‘what if’s’ of life. It can’t come from a mind littered with someone else’s limitations. You were born as a blank slate, your limitations are not your own, they’re learned. ‘Why it couldn’t work’ thoughts should be ruthlessly stamped out.

If others can – you can.

If you always listen to yourself, to your inner voice. To that thought of ‘this is wrong for me’; the tight gut when you make a decision; the sick feeling when you take a job you don’t really want even if it does pay well; on that awful trip to a wedding where you know this isn’t miss-ter right; your foresight won’t be compromised by your belief that you don’t deserve the best. Nor will it be confused by the very lazy ‘might as well keep going now I’ve got this far’. Or the even worse ‘people are expecting a wedding’.

Listen to every thought you have, instinct you have, feeling you have, learn to read yourself, and you can pre-create what you do want, not what you don’t. You will never again say:

“With hindsight I would do things differently.”

Unless you’re still not listening of course.

Or maybe mean differently as in even better! That’s acceptable.

Deb xx