To me the happy new year wish is pointless for two reasons:
After about a week the year isn’t new and the same old same old has reasserted its authority.
Plus
Happiness isn’t a self fulfilling prophecy. Well it is if you remember that you’re the self that has to fulfil it.
It’s a choice.
Hows and whys
- If your life is great, change nothing. If it isn’t then you’ll only have a happy year if you create change. Doing what you’ve always done has got you, and will continue to get you, what you’ve always got.
- To avoid this you need to remember that thinking as you’ve always thought, has got you what you’ve always got. So first you need to change the way you think before you will change what you get.
- Think happiness. That and that alone changes everything.
This is really simple stuff that deserves more attention than we give it. Yeah we know all that, yet twelve months later nothing has changed.
The happiness measure
We all want to be happy and healthy right?
We won’t feel healthy if we’re not happy.
So to feel great we need to focus on things that make us feel great. Which means:
If you’re in a job, relationship, house, area, friendship, hobby, that is wrong for you, either you put it right or you leave.
That may take time, but set a time limit by which you will act. Don’t let yourself drift into whenever still unhappy.
Measure everything in your life that’s within your control against how happy it makes you. Be conscious of your feelings at all times, act on your own truth It doesn’t matter if other people think you’re stupid to be unhappy, or a quitter who can’t stay the course.
That is not important – your wellbeing is. They don’t have to live your life or feel your feelings.
Short Story
Many years ago I was forced into a job I didn’t want. Long story. I was bullied from the moment I walked in the door. Sexually harassed for years.
I talked to my mum and she told me that I had to stay until those people liked me. Show them and win. I stayed for 13 years, not because mum told me to, partly due to lack of confidence to move on, and partly due to a long recession that stalled the job market.
When I left I was the most popular person in the place. What did it get me? A stone planter for the garden and a lot of people I used to know. I didn’t feel like a winner and it was not worth it.
Beautiful worthy people
I wish you the mindset, the determination, the inspiration, and the self-love and belief, to create the happiest year, and love every second of it. All year.
Smile more in 24!
Deb xx
Deb Hawken - Amorah 