I found this list amongst the papers I’ve been sorting out for five years. It struck me as quite useful so I thought I’d share it.
1. Don’t pre-judge, you only find out if something is right for you by trying it.
2. Don’t envy others. Envy doesn’t get you what you want. Action does.
3. There is plenty of good fortune to go around, don’t feel that others being successful hasn’t left room for you, there’s room for all.
4. Don’t focus on what other people are doing or have done, focus only on what you need to do.
5. Have standards of treatment you will accept, then you will find out very quickly who belongs in your life and is a positive force. Don’t forget to live to those standards yourself.
6. Trust yourself. If you don’t no one else will, and you won’t get anywhere in life by constantly second guessing yourself.
7. Me and not me. It’s too easy to take responsibility for everything that goes wrong, permanently feeling that you could have done better. It’s important to recognise when that’s true and when it isn’t, and not take blame just because someone wants to give it to you.
8. Don’t be a mirror image. We’ve all known people who change depending on whom they’re with at the time, mirroring expectations to be one of the crowd, get ahead at work, etc. In order to feel confident in yourself, decide who you are and be that person no matter whom you’re with or what the circumstances. Don’t let others dictate, or you’ll be an undefined mess of differing opinions.
9. Thinking is a decision making process that comes before action, but you can’t always know the exact actions you need to take to get the right result. This can make you scared to move forward. Take one step, review, take another, adjusting as you go. It’s far better than overthinking resulting in under achieving.
10. Intellect doesn’t rule. It’s wonderful to have a marvellous mind, but it’s more important to have a loving and generous heart. That way you can achieve your dreams without leaving the wreckage of others in your wake. Also, the heart has more brain cells and its job is to tell the mind what you really, really, want. Rate your emotions as highly as you rate your intellect. Fire on all cylinders. Make decisions that make you happy. At the end of the day being miserably rich and successful is not much fun.
Ten ideas of mine, but you don’t have to take my word for it, why not write down ten ideas of your own to help guide you to happiness on your own terms?
Deb xx
Deb Hawken - Amorah 